Parent Perspective: Navigating Life Post-Holidays

The holidays are a lot. For autism parents, December is filled with constant planning and preparation in hopes that our children can navigate every holiday party, gift exchange, and Christmas pageant with ease. We take steps to ensure our kids don’t experience sensory overload or consume too much sugar, while in the midst of it all, we want to savor the joy and magic ourselves.

Seeing the holidays through our children’s eyes—the wonder of visiting Santa or the delight of opening another favorite gift—is a tremendous blessing to us as parents. Yet, as magical and stressful as the season can be, there’s a shared sense of sadness once it’s over. Another season has passed, and we’re faced with the transition back to the routines of daily life with autism. 

While our kids often thrive on routine—even back to familiar schedules—it can still be challenging. That sense of holiday letdown is real, for both parents and kids. To help you and your child adjust to life post-holidays, here are some practical strategies for easing into 2025 with confidence and peace. 

Reestablish routines gradually.

If you can take a couple of days to transition back to your routine, the adjustment will likely go much more smoothly. Small, gradual changes can make a big difference. 

• Purge the holiday treats: Clear out leftover holiday sweets and reintroduce healthier options your child will enjoy. 
• Ease back into therapy: Schedule therapy sessions before school starts again if possible. Ask your child’s therapists to include time to pair with your child and process their holiday experiences. 
• Shift wake-up times: If your child has been sleeping during break, start waking them up earlier, inching closer to their regular schedule. 
• Adjust bedtimes: Begin putting your child to bed closer to their typical school night routine. 

I know these changes are hard to make as a parent. I often have the best intentions of putting my son to bed early, but when we’re cuddling on the couch at the end of the day, I don’t want to interrupt a sweet moment of connection. To be completely honest, I also don’t want to deal with a possible meltdown over going to bed. 

If you need additional support with transitions, consider using a visual calendar or social story to help your child envision the return to their daily routine. These can set clear expectations for what’s ahead and help ease anxiety about upcoming changes. 

Plan for downtime.

Before they return to school.

The holiday hustle can be both joyful and overstimulating. After things have quieted down, plan some intentional downtime to help your child decompress. Give them opportunities to spend extended periods of time at home, where they feel most safe and loved. During this free, unstructured time, encourage them to:

• Play with the new toys they received over the holidays.
• Rewatch their favorite Christmas movies. 
• Use sensory tools to help them reregulate, such as swings, crash pads, and stim toys.

After they return to school.

Once your child returns to school, avoid filling your evenings with too many activities. Overscheduling them, whether therapy sessions, extracurriculars, or even errands make challenging behaviors more apt to occur. The transition back to school and therapy often places increased demands on your child, and they may need more time to adjust. Allow them the space to unwind in their familiar environment where they can decompress after a busy day. 

Create a soothing environment at home. I find making home cozy and inviting in the winter months, helps our whole family, especially my autistic son. Once the Christmas tree comes down things can feel barren and depressing, but you can still have a fire in the fireplace, keep the lights low, cover yourselves in weighted blankets, and play soft music signaling to your child that it’s time to slow down. 

Reminisce about the holiday highlights

It’s important for kids with autism to have outlets to process and express their feelings about big events, same as all of us. Whether your child is speaking or uses an AAC device, create opportunties of them to talk about the holidays. 

For example, after significant events in our family, we add special memories to my son’s AAC device under a page called “Life Events.” This allows him to revisit moments like attending summer camp, dressing up for Halloween, or spending time with cousins and grandparents during Christmas in another state. By doing this, we gain insight into what’s important to him and better prepare him for future trips and events. 

Here are some questions to help guide your conversations: 

• People they saw: Who did you spend time with? Grandparents, cousins, friends? 
• Special events: What activities did you enjoy the most? Baking cookies, visiting Santa, opening gifts?
• Feelings: How do you feel now that the holidays are over? Happy, sad, relieved? 

It’s okay if your child is repetitive or hyperfocused on one thing in particular. As they process their experience they may begin to perseverate, but remember how important it is to give them a way to talk about what they loved, or hated, about this time of year. 

Plan something to look forward to

Transitions are easier when there’s something exciting to look forward to. While returning to routines can feel bittersweet, creating new events or goals can help both you and your child shift focus to what’s ahead.

Here are some ways to anticipate new things in the coming year:

• Mark it on your calendar: Visually highlight upcoming events your child might enjoy like Valentine’s Day or a fun family outing.
• Start a new tradition: January can feel like a dull month, but you can make it special. For instance, plan a “Winter Fun Day” where you play in the snow or enjoy a cup of hot chocolate together. 
• Set small goals: Write down a few achievable goals for 2025, such as learning a new skill or earning a reward for completing daily tasks. Post these in a visible spot, like the kitchen, to remind your child of what they’re working toward.

If you’re unsure of what to look forward to, ask your child’s ABA clinician for suggestions. They may have creative ideas for incorporating fun, motivating activities into therapy sessions. The new year is a great time to introduce new approaches to help your child reach their goals while keeping them engaged and excited. 

A fresh start for the new year

As hard as the holidays are, it’s also hard to face when they are finished. I have mixed feelings about going back to real life after wearing PJs till noon, shopping sales, and going out to the movies. For kids with autism, the adjustment can feel especially challenging and may bring out some problematic behaviors. With patience, preparation, and a little creative redirection, you can help your child ease into 2025 with hope. As you guide them, don’t forget to celebrate the small victories along the way—both theirs and yours. It may not be exactly how you envisioned but it can still be good. 

Here’s to a fresh start and a happy new year for you and your family! 

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Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

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