7 Truths for Every Autism Parent

April 28, 2025/in Autism, Parenting/by BrightPath Behavior

Reframing your perspective throughout the autism journey.

The path of raising a child with autism is full of twists and turns. It can be fascinating, frustrating, heartwarming, and exhausting all at once. One thing that it never is? Boring.

In my ten-plus years of raising a child with significant disabilities, including autism, a few truths have consistently guided me. Some may sound familiar or even overused, but they’ve been signposts helping me stay grounded, hopeful, and focused on a brighter future.

If you’re just starting out on this journey, or even if you need a reminder, I hope these phrases offer you the same reassurance, encouragement, and perspective they’ve given me.

1. Your child is on a unique path. So are you.

While your child develops at their own pace, you also grow and evolve as a parent. It’s natural to respond to delays with multiple therapies and medical interventions. Those can be incredibly helpful, but along the way, you’ll discover you can’t force your child to become someone they’re not. Extend the same grace and acceptance to yourself that you give to others. Your parenting path may look different than expected, but it can still be meaningful and beautiful.

2. Different is not bad. It’s just different.

An autism diagnosis can feel like a door closing, but it’s really a different door opening. Over time, you’ll begin to see how raising a neurodivergent child brings new joys, strengths, and dreams you never imagined. Life might not go according to your original plan, but a new and equally beautiful vision will emerge.

3. You become an expert in your child.

Suddenly, you find yourself on a crash course in understanding your child and their autism diagnosis. You’ll quickly develop a keen understanding of your child’s unique cues, needs, and challenges. You’ll learn about therapies, sensory tools, and school supports. You’ll advocate for services, educate professionals, and anticipate your child’s needs like no one else can. Your insights will become one of their most powerful resources.

4. Trust your gut.

When you’re new to this journey, it’s easy to second-guess yourself. (Honestly, it’s easy to second-guess yourself when you’ve been doing it for a long time.) But your instincts are powerful. If something feels off or unusual—or if you’re drawn to try something unconventional—listen to that inner voice. You know your child better than anyone. Listen to your heart, and let it lead you in the direction that will best serve your child and your family.

5. There are more resources than ever. Use them.

Today, there are more tools, therapies, and support available for children on the spectrum than ever before—from high-tech communication devices to sensory diets, specialized education programs, and evidence-based therapies like ABA. Many communities offer innovative resources—like all-abilities playgrounds and AAC time at the library—to support your child’s development. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or explore what’s available.

6. You’ll meet the most incredible people.

Some friendships may fade-—but new, lasting ones will emerge. You’ll build a team of therapists, teachers, respite babysitters, and fellow special needs parents who truly “get it.” These relationships can become some of the most meaningful connections of your life, all because of the unique journey you and your child are on.

7. Setbacks don’t define you or your child.

Progress isn’t always linear. There may be regressions or unexpected challenges—whether due to health, stress, or growth in other areas. Sometimes, when your child learns a new skill, you’ll see regression in an area you thought they had mastered. Or a surgery or medical procedure will require them to rehabilitate. But you’ll bounce back. Sometimes, the comeback isn’t in hitting a specific milestone, but in the strength, perspective, and resilience you gain along the way. You and your child are capable of incredible things.

It’s not about the destination but the journey.

As with many things in life, raising a child with autism isn’t just about where you and your child end up as much as it is about who you become along the way. Yes, therapy and early intervention matter. But so does being present. So does noticing little wins, the unexpected laughs, and the quiet moments of connection. This journey is about growing together, learning together, and finding joy—even in the most ordinary and challenging days.

What are your ideas and questions?

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Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

Understanding AAC for Kids with Autism

March 28, 2025/in Autism, Parenting/by BrightPath Behavior

The Journey to Becoming a Successful AAC User

Choosing the right AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) for your non-speaking child can feel overwhelming. At least, that’s how it felt for me. I wanted to make the right choice right off the bat—one that would help my son communicate without adding to his frustration. I needed something that would grow with him, giving him a reliable way to express himself. And, like many parents, I worried: Would using an AAC or SGD (Speech Generating Device) somehow take away his ability to speak? (Spoiler Alert: It doesn’t.)

Now, several years into our AAC journey, I see how much progress my son made. In the beginning, he lacked the fine motor skills to use sign language or even press a button on a Big Mac device. But today, we are constantly expanding his vocabulary, adding new words and phrases to his SGD so he can communicate more fully.

I wish I had known at the start that this journey isn’t linear—it twists and turns, and that’s okay. Finding the right AAC device takes time, and the best option for your child may evolve as they grow. Here are some things to help guide you along the way.

What is AAC?

AAC stands for Augmentative and Alternative Communication. It includes various forms of communication primarily used by non-speaking individuals, though people with autism who can speak may also find it helpful. Here’s a breakdown of the different types:

No-tech AAC –

Sign-language, Picture Exchange Communication System (also known as PECS), and other image-based forms of communication such as a first-then board.

Low-tech AAC –

Simple devices include a Big Mac Button, which plays a pre-recorded word or phrase when pressed, and standalone communication devices with a limited number of buttons, such as a GoTalk, which typically features a six or eight-square grid.

High-tech AAC –

Speech generating devices (SGDs), often in the form of specialized software or apps installed on an iPad or tablet, allow for more advanced and customizable communication.

Trialing different types of AAC.

When exploring different forms of AAC for your child, it’s essential to honor total communication—this means recognizing and responding to all forms of communication your child uses, whether it’s sign language, vocalizations, gestures, or their SGD. The goal isn’t to force a specific AAC method but to encourage communication in whatever way works best for your child at any given moment. For example, their SGD may not be immediately available, but sign language is always an accessible tool.

To determine the best AAC option, consult a Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) through a hospital system or private therapy group or reach out to an Assistive Technology (AT) Specialist, often available through your local school district. Let them know you’re interested in exploring different AAC methods to find the best fit for your child.

A possible AAC journey could look like this:

Sign language—Start by teaching your baby sign language. Sign language can support language development in all children, not just those with autism.

Picture Exchange Communication System (PECS)—You don’t need to have a full PECS system set up to begin, though it is a well-thought-through tool for foundational communication. Start using Boardmaker symbols or household pictures to help your child associate different images with words.

Big Mac Button or GoTalk—These devices allow a child to press a button to play a recorded word. While limited to one-word messages, they help establish cause-and-effect learning and introduce the concept of a device for communication.

Eye Gaze Technology—Consider trialing an eye gaze device if your child has a severe physical disability or visual impairment. However, many children find this system heavy, glitchy, and impractical for everyday use.

Speech Generating Device (SGD)—Test various AAC programs on an iPad or other dedicated device. Popular programs include TDSnap, Proloquo2Go, and LAMP Words for Life. Each program has unique visual layouts and motor pathways. Some are built on semantic compaction, similar to how we learn spoken language, while others are organized by word categories. If you’re working closely with an SLP or AT Specialist, they can help guide you in the right direction for your child’s needs.

Above all, pay attention to what your child naturally gravitates toward. Be intentional when exposing your child to different types of AAC, and pay attention to their cues. Many children show us what works best for them, but it may take time.

Where to start with AAC for Kids with Autism? AAC for Early Intervention

Start with Core Words. Core words make up approximately 80% of the words we use daily. The other 20% are considered fringe words, which are very specific to the user. Many SGDs are set up with between 40 and 60 core words on the homepage, depending on the grid size appropriate for the user’s needs. Whether your child begins using pre-determined core words on a high-tech device or not, they will begin to pick up on core words in their natural environment.

When your child is young, the type of AAC you use matters less than simply beginning to build functional communication skills. Using picture cards for labeling, which are often used in ABA therapy, can be a great introduction to AAC. Repetition is key. Your child should see the same pictures and words consistently, regardless of whether it’s PECS or a different AAC program. The more exposure they have, the more familiar and comfortable they’ll become with using AAC to communicate.

How to choose the right type of AAC for your child with autism.

Selecting the right AAC for your child comes with a lot of trial and error. Consider their developmental age, interests, and communication needs, and expose them to AAC options that fit where they are in their journey.

When we started the AAC journey, no-tech options were our first step. Sign language naturally became part of our daily routine, and we still use it occasionally—especially when my son’s SGD isn’t nearby or when we need to communicate quickly. Another early step was posting Boardmaker pictures around the house for him to help him recognize words and their meanings through visuals.

Our first low-tech AAC experience was with Big Mac Buttons. While they were helpful for teaching cause and effect, they weren’t ideal for functionally expressing needs. However, we set up a Big Mac Button by the back door that said, “I want to go outside,” which my son used when he wanted to go on the trampoline. He pressed it all the time. Be forewarned.

It wasn’t until a couple of years into elementary school that we started trialing high-tech types of AAC. Our AT Specialist introduced us to different devices and programs, allowing us to take them home and see which worked best for our son.

Choosing an AAC system is a very personal decision—not just for your child but for your entire family. A big part of AAC success is modeling usage. As a parent or sibling, you help normalize it by using AAC in your home. Learning to communicate with AAC is like learning a new language and everyone learns together. This collective effort makes it easier for your child to integrate AAC into their daily life over time.

Things to consider when selecting an AAC for your child.

Here are some additional key factors to keep in mind:

Physical, Hearing, or Visual Impairments– If your child has an additional disability, select an AAC system that accommodates their needs. For example:
- An eye-gaze device may be best for children with limited motor control, such as those with cerebral palsy.
- Sign language may be more accessible for deaf or hard-of-hearing children.
- High-contrast images and large buttons can be beneficial for the visually impaired.
Fine-Motor Abilities – If your child struggles with fine motor skills and dexterity, consider adding a keyguard to their SGD to help them select the buttons more accurately.
Process and Response Time – Give your child enough time to respond to questions and find the words they want to say. Avoid the temptation to speak for them. Patience encourages independent communication.
Gradual Changes – Whether you’re trialing different AAC systems or introducing a new device, make changes slowly and don’t give up too quickly. Children need time to adapt to new communication tools.
Consistency – Use consistent language for common tasks, questions, and requests to help your child become familiar with their AAC system.
Data Collection – Test different forms of AAC and track data on how your child engages with them. This is where ABA can prove to be especially helpful. Therapists can monitor different AAC types and help assess which one(s) best supports your child’s communication.

Best Communication Device for Autism.

You may have heard the phrase, “If you’ve met a child with autism, you’ve met one child with autism.” Every child is unique, and that applies to AAC as well.

The best communication device for a child with autism is the one that works best for them. There is no one-size-fits-all solution. Each child will have different communication needs, preferences, and abilities.

Ultimately, the goal is to find the AAC system that supports your child’s ability to communicate effectively in daily life and grows with them over time.

Ways to incorporate AAC into ABA sessions.

In the study of ABA, we’ve discovered that all behavior, whether desired or unwanted, is a form of communication. We want our kids with autism to be able to express themselves more fully, not only to reduce frustration but also to build meaningful relationships based on understanding who they are and what they’re thinking.

It’s important to include your child’s ABA therapist in their AAC journey. Using AAC across multiple environments—home, school, and therapy—helps reinforce their communication skills and increases their confidence in using their device. Since successful AAC use often requires extensive practice, your child’s BCBA should integrate it into their sessions.

Here are some ways AAC can be incorporated into ABA sessions:

Using the ACC device to help your child name objects, people, or actions appropriately.
Practice greetings, requesting attention, or participating either one-on-one or in structured group activities using the AAC.
Encouraging communication by offering a preferred toy or activity as a reinforcer when your child successfully uses their AAC device.

Collaboration between your child’s BCBA, speech therapist, and school AT specialist can further support their progress and help ensure that AAC becomes a natural and effective part of their daily lives.

AAC: The next best thing to speaking.

One of our greatest hopes as parents is for our children to speak. We dream of teaching them their first words as toddlers and having deep, meaningful conversations with them as they grow. But for some families, this isn’t the reality, and that’s okay. There is beauty in finding new ways to connect and communicate.

In today’s technologically-advanced world, we have more opportunities than ever to use AAC to understand what’s going on in our non-speaking child’s mind.

If you are like me, you may worry that giving your child access to AAC would prevent them from vocalizing words or speaking in sentences. This simply isn’t the case. For many kids, AAC becomes a stepping stone in their developmental journey. Some, like my son, eventually begin speaking minimally, while others go on to form fully comprehensive sentences.

Don’t be afraid to dive into the world of AAC. It can feel overwhelming at first, but it can also be incredibly exciting. There is nothing more delightful than discovering what your child has been wanting to say all along.

What are your ideas and questions about AAC?

We’d love to hear from you! Share your ideas, questions, and feedback in the comments below. Your input helps us continue providing helpful and insightful content about autism and ABA therapy.

If you found this post helpful, please like, share, and follow us.

Interested in a positive, play-based approach to ABA?

Connect with BrightPath Behavior today! Our friendly team is here to answer your questions and support your journey.

Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

Bedtime Routines for Kids with Autism

February 21, 2025/in Autism, Parenting/by BrightPath Behavior

Parent Perspective: How to Get Your Autistic Child to Sleep Without Losing Your Mind

Shortly after my son was diagnosed with autism, I met a nurse whose own son was on the spectrum. As we talked, she shared stories of sleepless nights, her son running through the house at all hours, and the exhaustion that came with it. I remember feeling a pit in my stomach—was this what my future looked like? After all, she was a nurse and still hadn’t quite figured it out. Would bedtime always be a battle? Would I ever sleep well again?

If you’re a parent of a child with autism, you might be asking yourself the same questions. Bedtime can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re running on fumes and just need a good night’s sleep. And while it may never be perfect, it can get better. With a mindset shift and a few adjustments, bedtime can become less of a fight and more of a calming ritual for both you and your child. Here are some ideas on how to make it work for you.

Bedtime begins with mindset.

If you’ve been struggling with putting your child to sleep and it hasn’t been going well, it’s understandable you don’t have many positive emotions around bedtime. Putting your child to bed can feel like a fight, and it’s not just kids with autism, by the way. Most children resist going to bed, even when they’re exhausted, and most parents have little energy left at the end of the day. It’s often a recipe for frustration and power struggles.

If this sounds familiar, consider shifting your mindset. Instead of dreading the bedtime routine, try reframing it as an intentional time of connection and bonding. This small mental change in thinking can make a big difference in how the evening unfolds.

My son and I almost always end up in some form of conflict when I over-excitedly announce it’s time for bed! Though he is non-speaking, he has plenty of ways to tell me he’s not ready—ignoring me, sprawling out on the family room floor, refusing to move, or tossing aside the bedtime stories I suggest.

So, I changed my approach. Instead of insisting, I join him in whatever play he engages in. If he’s stimming, I’ll cuddle beside him while he shakes a toy and begin asking him questions. Eventually, he responds, and I try to turn that into a shared experience—maybe singing, tickling, or transitioning into a bedtime book. When he feels seen and connected, bedtime becomes an easier sell.

When the process is enjoyable and soothing for both of you, it naturally goes better. And when it gets hard (because it might), don’t give up. Consistency is an essential part of raising an autistic child.

Start with the end in mind.

When planning your autistic child’s bedtime routine, it helps to begin with the goal in mind. What time do you want your child to be in bed—not necessarily asleep, but settled and comfortable? Once you have that ideal time, work backward and start the bedtime routine about 30 minutes before.

Start this 30 minutes before bedtime.

Research has taught us a lot about sleep hygiene—what helps and what hinders a good night’s rest. Here are some key sleep tips to keep in mind as you begin winding down for the night:

Turn off electronic devices to reduce exposure to blue light, which can interfere with sleep. AAC devices should be an exception, as they help create a structured bedtime routine.

Give your child a small snack or glass of milk. Having something light in their stomach may help them feel more sleepy. Milk especially has an amino acid that the body uses to produce serotonin and melatonin, helping your child feel more sleepy.

Take a bath and/or use aromatherapy for a calming sensation before sleep. Give your child a warm bath with lavender-scented soap, or use essential oils. Note: Some kids (mine!) are highly stimulated by water, so bathing before bed might have the opposite effect.

Create a visual schedule.

Use a visual schedule to provide a clear, consistent bedtime pattern. A simple chart on the wall can be a helpful reminder for you and your child.

Here’s an example of bedtime steps that might work well for a young child with autism:

Bath
Brush teeth
Pajamas
Cuddles
Storytime
Sound machine
Soothing lights

A structured and predictable routine may help your child feel more secure at bedtime, making the experience smoother and more peaceful for both of you.

Sleep strategies for autism and sleep problems that may help.

Every child is different, but here are a few things that may help build healthy sleep patterns:

Ending the day with cuddles.

My son and I both look forward to snuggles at the end of the day. Sometimes, he will even initiate this by coming over to me and leaning his body against mine at the end of the day. Cuddling often begins on the couch and continues after my child is in bed.

Reading a bedtime story.

We usually choose a bedtime book that isn’t too short or long—just something enjoyable to read together. If your child wants to hear the same book over and over again, that’s okay. It likely brings them comfort and predictability, even though it feels repetitive for you.

Creating a safe and cozy sleep space.

Because sleep and safety are both so important, we invested in the Abrams The Saftey Sleeper Bed, a specially designed tent for autistic children. This enclosed space helps my child feel secure and prevents him from wandering at night. He loves his tent, and bedtime is much easier for him because it feels like a safe, cozy haven.

Common bedtime challenges for kids with autism.

One thing I’ve noticed is that my son resists bedtime more when he isn’t tired. While consistency is important, it’s equally important to recognize your child’s natural sleep cues. Base your child’s bedtime on when they’re actually getting sleepy. There are age-based guides that can help determine the proper bedtime, but ultimately, your child’s cues are the best indicator.

During the day, make sure they get plenty of movement and at least 30 minutes to an hour of outdoor time. Exposure to natural light earlier in the day helps regulate their internal clock, signaling to their brain when it’s time for sleep.

Winning at bedtime with your autistic child.

Through years of trial and error, I’ve learned that my son is much more willing to comply with bedtime if he sees me calm, present, and engaged. My presence matters.

When I am in a hurry—just trying to check bedtime off my list so I can move on to chores or go to bed myself—it never goes smoothly. But everything flows better when I slow down, embrace the routine, and connect with him.

Kids are incredibly in tune with our emotions. When bedtime feels like a stressful obligation, they can pick up on that.

Bedtime with a child on the spectrum isn’t always easy, but with patience, consistency, and a shift in mindset, it can become more peaceful and meaningful. Find what works for your child, focus on connection, and give yourself grace on the tough nights. You are doing an amazing job.

What are your ideas and questions?

We’d love to hear from you! Share your ideas, questions, and feedback in the comments below. Your input helps us continue providing helpful and insightful content about autism and ABA therapy.

If you found this post helpful, please like, share, and follow us.

Interested in a positive, play-based approach to ABA?

Connect with BrightPath Behavior today! Our friendly team is here to answer your questions and support your journey.

Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

How to Support Kids with Autism Through Holiday Letdown

December 26, 2024/in Parenting, Uncategorized/by BrightPath Behavior

Parent Perspective: Navigating Life Post-Holidays

The holidays are a lot. For autism parents, December is filled with constant planning and preparation in hopes that our children can navigate every holiday party, gift exchange, and Christmas pageant with ease. We take steps to ensure our kids don’t experience sensory overload or consume too much sugar, while in the midst of it all, we want to savor the joy and magic ourselves.

Seeing the holidays through our children’s eyes—the wonder of visiting Santa or the delight of opening another favorite gift—is a tremendous blessing to us as parents. Yet, as magical and stressful as the season can be, there’s a shared sense of sadness once it’s over. Another season has passed, and we’re faced with the transition back to the routines of daily life with autism.

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While our kids often thrive on routine—even back to familiar schedules—it can still be challenging. That sense of holiday letdown is real, for both parents and kids. To help you and your child adjust to life post-holidays, here are some practical strategies for easing into 2025 with confidence and peace.

Reestablish routines gradually.

If you can take a couple of days to transition back to your routine, the adjustment will likely go much more smoothly. Small, gradual changes can make a big difference.

Purge the holiday treats: Clear out leftover holiday sweets and reintroduce healthier options your child will enjoy.
Ease back into therapy: Schedule therapy sessions before school starts again if possible. Ask your child’s therapists to include time to pair with your child and process their holiday experiences.
Shift wake-up times: If your child has been sleeping during break, start waking them up earlier, inching closer to their regular schedule.
Adjust bedtimes: Begin putting your child to bed closer to their typical school night routine.

I know these changes are hard to make as a parent. I often have the best intentions of putting my son to bed early, but when we’re cuddling on the couch at the end of the day, I don’t want to interrupt a sweet moment of connection. To be completely honest, I also don’t want to deal with a possible meltdown over going to bed.

If you need additional support with transitions, consider using a visual calendar or social story to help your child envision the return to their daily routine. These can set clear expectations for what’s ahead and help ease anxiety about upcoming changes.

Plan for downtime.

Before they return to school.

The holiday hustle can be both joyful and overstimulating. After things have quieted down, plan some intentional downtime to help your child decompress. Give them opportunities to spend extended periods of time at home, where they feel most safe and loved. During this free, unstructured time, encourage them to:

Play with the new toys they received over the holidays.
Rewatch their favorite Christmas movies.
Use sensory tools to help them reregulate, such as swings, crash pads, and stim toys.

After they return to school.

Once your child returns to school, avoid filling your evenings with too many activities. Overscheduling them, whether therapy sessions, extracurriculars, or even errands make challenging behaviors more apt to occur. The transition back to school and therapy often places increased demands on your child, and they may need more time to adjust. Allow them the space to unwind in their familiar environment where they can decompress after a busy day.

Create a soothing environment at home. I find making home cozy and inviting in the winter months, helps our whole family, especially my autistic son. Once the Christmas tree comes down things can feel barren and depressing, but you can still have a fire in the fireplace, keep the lights low, cover yourselves in weighted blankets, and play soft music signaling to your child that it’s time to slow down.

Reminisce about the holiday highlights

It’s important for kids with autism to have outlets to process and express their feelings about big events, same as all of us. Whether your child is speaking or uses an AAC device, create opportunties of them to talk about the holidays.

For example, after significant events in our family, we add special memories to my son’s AAC device under a page called “Life Events.” This allows him to revisit moments like attending summer camp, dressing up for Halloween, or spending time with cousins and grandparents during Christmas in another state. By doing this, we gain insight into what’s important to him and better prepare him for future trips and events.

Here are some questions to help guide your conversations:

People they saw: Who did you spend time with? Grandparents, cousins, friends?
Special events: What activities did you enjoy the most? Baking cookies, visiting Santa, opening gifts?
Feelings: How do you feel now that the holidays are over? Happy, sad, relieved?

It’s okay if your child is repetitive or hyperfocused on one thing in particular. As they process their experience they may begin to perseverate, but remember how important it is to give them a way to talk about what they loved, or hated, about this time of year.

Plan something to look forward to

Transitions are easier when there’s something exciting to look forward to. While returning to routines can feel bittersweet, creating new events or goals can help both you and your child shift focus to what’s ahead.

Here are some ways to anticipate new things in the coming year:

Mark it on your calendar: Visually highlight upcoming events your child might enjoy like Valentine’s Day or a fun family outing.
Start a new tradition: January can feel like a dull month, but you can make it special. For instance, plan a “Winter Fun Day” where you play in the snow or enjoy a cup of hot chocolate together.
Set small goals: Write down a few achievable goals for 2025, such as learning a new skill or earning a reward for completing daily tasks. Post these in a visible spot, like the kitchen, to remind your child of what they’re working toward.

If you’re unsure of what to look forward to, ask your child’s ABA clinician for suggestions. They may have creative ideas for incorporating fun, motivating activities into therapy sessions. The new year is a great time to introduce new approaches to help your child reach their goals while keeping them engaged and excited.

A fresh start for the new year

As hard as the holidays are, it’s also hard to face when they are finished. I have mixed feelings about going back to real life after wearing PJs till noon, shopping sales, and going out to the movies. For kids with autism, the adjustment can feel especially challenging and may bring out some problematic behaviors. With patience, preparation, and a little creative redirection, you can help your child ease into 2025 with hope. As you guide them, don’t forget to celebrate the small victories along the way—both theirs and yours. It may not be exactly how you envisioned but it can still be good.

Here’s to a fresh start and a happy new year for you and your family!

What are your ideas and questions?

We value your feedback! Share your thoughts and questions in the comments below. Your input helps us continue providing insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

If you found this post helpful, please like, share, and follow us for more insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

Interested in a positive, play-based approach to ABA?

Connect with BrightPath Behavior today. Our friendly team is here to answer your questions and support your journey.

Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

Photo used with permission by the blog author.

How to Talk to Your Child About Their Autism Diagnosis

October 28, 2024/in Autism, Parenting/by BrightPath Behavior

It is hard to know when and how to talk to your child about their autism diagnosis. It can feel overwhelming—for you and them—but it’s important to begin helping them understand who they are and how they interact with the world. Just as every child is unique, every child with autism is unique, and no one conversation will cover all the things they need to know.

Consider thinking through a few things before you sit down with your child. The most important thing is to frame the conversation in a positive, supportive, and empowering way. Hopefully, this blog post will guide you through when and how to approach the autism talk.

Understanding what autism looks like for your child.

Before you have a conversation with your child about their autism, it is essential for you to truly understand what it looks like for your child. Some of the common symptoms associated with autism may not be part of your child’s diagnosis, while others could be pervasive. You may want to process this with your partner or someone close to your family first.

A helpful exercise to prepare you for the conversation is to explain how having a child on the autism spectrum affects your child and family. The first step in this process is to identify your child’s strengths and challenges and be able to talk about them honestly with those closest to you.

Here are some things you can do in the preparation stage of the process:

Educate yourself on autism. Know how it presents in your child. List their specific needs, strengths, and areas of support. Use your informed understanding to help shape the conversation with your child.
Practice talking about autism with your partner or close friend. Just like with anything, the practice helps you be more confident and comfortable with what you want to say.

Finding the right time to talk to your child about their autism.

Whether it’s a planned conversation or it happens spontaneously, there’s no one right time to discuss your child’s autism. The timing will likely depend on your child’s development and ability to understand or their curiosity about their differences.

Many experts recommend discussing it with your child earlier rather than later. The idea behind these recommendations is to help your child build self-awareness over time. But again, there’s no predetermined age by which you should have this conversation. All children, even those with autism, mature differently. As their parent, you’ll know when it’s right for your family.

Here are some things to keep in mind about the timing:

Pay attention to their questions and cues. If they start asking, “Why am I different?” or “Why do I go to therapy?” you can use these cues to lead into the conversation.
Be prepared not only for the initial conversation but for ongoing conversations. As your child grows, their questions may change as their understanding changes. Be ready to reenter the discussion as they become more aware of who they are and struggle to understand it.

Use positive, empowering language that is also age-appropriate.

How you talk about your child’s autism sets the tone for your child’s self-perception. When you label autism as what your child has, be sure to emphasize that it is not who they are. It is only one part of them. Autism gives them unique strengths as well as areas where they struggle.

Explain to your child in an age-appropriate way.

When they are young, it can be as simple as “Having autism means your brain works differently from most people. It can make some things easier and some things harder.” This conversation will become more nuanced and specific to their challenges as your child ages. You may need to discuss in-depth things like why they go to therapy and ways to help them navigate school, friendships, and social situations.

Regardless of how old they are, keep these things at the forefront of your mind in all of your conversations:

Highlight their specific strengths over and over again.
Avoid telling them there are certain things they can’t do.
Read them books about what it’s like to have autism, such as Uniquely Wired by Julia Cook or I See Things Differently by Pat Thomas.
Show them characters like Julia from Sesame Street or Pablo.
Point them toward role models with autism in different fields like technology, art, or science as they get older.
Reassure them that they are loved and supported and that you will help them navigate hard things for them.
Explain Therapy: If they attend ABA therapy or other services, explain that these therapies help them develop skills to succeed in school, friendships, and daily life.
Teach Self-Advocacy: Encourage your child to share when something is hard for them and to understand that asking for help is a strength.

When children may not be able to understand their diagnosis.

It’s important to acknowledge that though many individuals with autism will be able to engage in a conversation about how their diagnosis affects their daily living, many will not. My son falls into this category. If that’s your child, too, I see you. It’s still crucial for us to understand on a deep level who our child is and how their strengths and weaknesses affect their life because, in many ways, we are their voice. We must be able to communicate these things on their behalf to their teachers, peers, and even strangers in the community.

Children who are more profoundly affected by autism are, in many ways, shielded from caring about the opinions of others and needing to conform to a society not built for them. As their parents, that load falls primarily on us. A big part of your job will be to find places of acceptance and accommodation so they can thrive.

If your child, like mine, isn’t able to engage in a conversation about their diagnosis, perhaps the conversations you may be having about autism and its effects are with siblings and close family members. How we love and nurture our children with autism requires lots of empathy, patience, and understanding for those who live with them day in and day out.

Continuing the conversation about autism.

Talking to your child about their autism diagnosis can feel daunting. However, you may feel better after you’ve had the initial conversation. With patience, love, and an invitation to keep talking, you will help them embrace who they are and grow into a confident, self-aware individual.

Remember, if it doesn’t go how you envisioned, everyone processes this differently. It may take time. It is just one conversation of many to come. Approaching this journey with empathy, encouragement, and an openness to understanding them will go a long way.

What questions do you have about talking to your child about autism?

We’d love to hear from you in the comments below. If you found this post helpful, please feel free to like, share, and follow us for more insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

If a positive, play-based approach to ABA appeals to you, we invite you to reach out to BrightPath Behavior. The friendly team at BrightPath is always ready to help answer your questions.

Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

How ABA Therapy Can Help in School

September 28, 2024/in Parenting, School/by BrightPath Behavior

Parent Perspective: Ways to utilize ABA in your child’s educational setting

When I became a mom, I was completely unprepared for what was ahead—let alone the journey of parenting a child with learning differences. There is a steep learning curve to autism, therapy, the school system, and accompanying medical diagnoses. But as time went on, I found my footing as an autism mom. Slowly but surely, I learned to navigate the various systems and how they interrelate. One of the most valuable tools for our family has been ABA. Incorporating principles from ABA into my son’s classroom has made an enormous difference in his learning ability.

Life doesn’t happen in a vacuum. What your child is learning at ABA applies to their educational setting and at home. For my child to succeed, we needed to find ways to partner with his ABA provider and the school and connect the two. Both parties need to know what the other side is doing. They had to learn from each other to have consistent programming for my child across environments. This collaborative approach, where everyone’s input is valued, was critical to our child’s success.

This blog explores how to build relationships among everyone on your child’s team and gives ideas for where you can leverage the benefits of ABA to help your child in school.

Making connections and building relationships

Your child’s ABA providers, therapists, and teachers are part of a team of support people on their journey to development. Each person has a different role, but parts of their jobs overlap, especially regarding your child’s behavior. That’s why, in many cases, ABA can lead the way toward your child’s overall growth. With the proper support and strategies, there’s a world of potential for your child’s development.

As both you and your child build a trusting relationship with your child’s board certified behavior analyst (BCBA), communicate with them what is happening at home and school. Your BCBA can give you some guiding principles to share in different settings.

There may come a point where you want to connect your BCBA with your child’s occupational therapist (OT) to help with behavioral challenges that occur during fine motor work, for example. Or your child’s school teacher as you work together toward writing a behavior intervention protocol (BIP) for their IEP.

It may take time before you are ready to introduce your BCBA to other professionals on your child’s team. That’s okay. Everyone needs time to get to know one another and build trust.

Areas where ABA may be beneficial in a school setting

There are many ways to leverage what you and your child have learned in ABA to benefit your child’s overall growth and development. As they enter the education system, view ABA as a resource for you in some of the following areas.

Developing a social skills program

Our kids learn more than academics at school. They learn about having positive, healthy relationships with their peers. For kids with autism, these friendships may be tricky at times. Having extra ABA support by developing school social skills programming that teachers can help implement at school may be very beneficial.

ABA can assist in setting specific social goals for your child, such as asking three friends a question each day or willingly sharing toys without undesirable behaviors. When added to your child’s IEP, these goals can be tailored to your child’s needs and contribute to their growth and the health of the overall classroom relationships.

Navigating speech and communication challenges

Speech and communication can be significant challenges for autistic kids. Whether they need help articulating their needs and wants appropriately or are learning to talk on an alternative and augmentative communication (AAC) device, ABA may be able to come alongside and support what the school is doing.

Many kids receive speech services at school or privately. The goals designed by the speech-language pathologist (SLP) to help develop your child’s communication may bring out resistant behaviors in your child. Making your child’s BCBA aware of how an SLP works with your child is super helpful because they can practice speech and language during ABA therapy sessions. The more practice and consistency your child has working toward using their words or activating their speech-generating device, the more they are going to be reinforced by the success they have.

Speech and language is foundational to education. As you learn how your child can best communicate, figure out how you can loop your ABA provider into that process so that you have the reps your child needs to make progress.

The area of communication is one in which I have been so grateful for ABA working with my son. He uses an AAC device. His ABA therapists have implemented his device into his sessions, whether it be by having him carry it with him from room to room so it is always available for him to “talk” or by using it during games, snacks, and table time, I have seen massive growth in his vocabulary. What ABA can do alongside his teachers and private speech therapists has pushed him further than where I could have taken him alone.

Reviewing or helping to write BIPs

Depending on your child’s behaviors in school, the staff may recommend that you develop a behavior intervention protocol or BIP. You may also request a BIP from the school if you notice behaviors that need to be addressed consistently and promptly.

Writing a BIP is a lengthy process. It often involves a lot of observation of the ABCs:

Antecedents to the behavior
Behavior itself
Consequences (positive or negative) of the behavior

You may be asked to gather the ABC information at home or in therapy, but the school should also record this behavioral data.

Another critical component of writing an effective BIP is interviewing adults close to your child. Many times, ABA therapists can provide beneficial information. If the school is open to querying your child’s therapists, this will help ensure a more consistent approach to helping positively direct your child’s behavior.

After the school staff have been able to analyze and write a report outlining the BIP, have your BCBA review the document and provide feedback. Again, this helps reinforce your overall behavior goals.

Helping write IEP goals and interpret progress reports

Unless you are professionally trained to write IEP goals, you may feel overwhelmed. I know I did. I still feel overwhelmed by reading and understanding the very specific, measurable information packed into my child’s goals. As a team, we want them to be attainable but also challenging enough that he is stretched to grow.

Before each Admission, Review, and Dismissal (ARD) meeting, my son’s teacher will usually ask me what I think some of his goals should be. Sometimes, I have a ton of ideas. But in some areas of his learning, it’s hard for me to come up with things. Use your ABA therapists to help you brainstorm goal ideas. They know your child well and may be able to identify some excellent ways to challenge and motivate your kid.

When it’s progress report time, I often face the same challenge of understanding the complex reporting structure of which specific aspect of the goal he achieved or didn’t achieve. I’ve found it helpful to review these reports with my child’s teacher as well as with his BCBA. She can provide understanding in layman’s terms. And she adapts her ABA plan in conjunction with what he’s working on in school and how well it’s going.

Attending ARD meetings

Some BCBAs can attend ARD meetings. Meeting attendance will largely depend on scheduling, your provider, and given that you consent to the school district in writing. It’s worth it for the hoops you have to jump through. Having another person at the table who is advocating for your child and knows your child in a way that helps move them toward the next step in their journey is an incredible thing.

We’ve invited our BCBA to my son’s ARD meetings for over five years. The collaboration I see happening on both sides of the table is exciting. They can give one another ideas to encourage my child’s success. The more I see multiple support providers giving him what he needs in various areas of his life, the more growth and development I see in him.

I am so grateful for our team and the way they work together. This partnership can only happen because of the trust we’ve built. Establishing trust takes time. Sometimes, when someone leaves my child’s team, and we get a new person, it takes a while to build back to where we were. I must remind myself that every person has something to contribute to his learning journey. And if I don’t see that they are, that’s when it’s graciously time to make a change.

It doesn’t always look like I expect it to or want it to, but I’ve consistently found that when I begin to network and pull providers together at the same virtual—or actual—table, amazing things happen for my kiddo. I can only look on in gratitude for all of the incredible work they do on his behalf.

You are not alone.

Advocating for your child in school doesn’t mean you must do it alone. Remember, you have a team beside you. Your ABA clinicians, private therapists, and school staff all play a vital role in your kid’s development. They care about the challenges you are facing as a family and, together, will help your child down the path to being unique and shining bright.

What are your biggest questions or concerns about connecting your ABA provider with your child’s teacher?

We’d love to hear from you in the comments below. If you found this post helpful, please feel free to like, share, and follow us for more insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

If a positive, play-based approach to ABA appeals to you, we invite you to contact BrightPath Behavior. The friendly team at BrightPath Behavior is always ready to answer your questions.

Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Staying Healthy As Cold and Flu Season Approaches

August 28, 2024/in ABA Therapy, Parenting/by BrightPath Behavior

Parent Perspective: Teaching Hygiene and Self-Care Routines to Your Child with Autism

School’s back in session, and so are the germs! Your child may have already come home sick from preschool, school, or therapy. It’s that dreaded time of year for parents. We all long for our kids—and ourselves—to stay healthy as they return to their fall routines.

Staying well comes with a lot of pressure on parents—and even more so if you have a child with autism. Over the years, I’ve tried numerous things to help ward off viruses and stomach bugs. One thing stands out to me as we approach this season once again—you can’t control whether or not your child will get sick. But you can take proactive steps and hope for the best possible outcome.

This blog post explores several ways to help your child stay healthy. All of them are suggestions, not strict rules. You’ll find what works best for you. If you can’t do everything, that’s okay. See what you can commit to from this list. Maybe choose one, stick to it, and see how it goes. Remember, it’s about finding a balance that works for you and your child.

All the Ways to Stay Well

Wash Your Hands

Everyone knows how important it is to wash your hands. Unfortunately, our kids don’t always heed this advice. I’ve been trying to get mine to wash his hands independently for years. We’re still not there yet, but the good news is that it’s improved. Along with ABA programming, some things have helped my son’s handwashing skills and habits.

Routine. Building handwashing into the daily schedule so it’s the same every time. For example, we always wash our hands before and after we eat. It’s just what we do; therefore, it’s not as much of a struggle.
Visual schedule. Using a visual schedule showing all the steps of handwashing and posting it right by the bathroom sink is a big help. I talk my child through each step as he goes.
Fun. Making it fun and silly by singing a song or doing a little handwashing dance helps with participation. Any goofy form of engaging my child in a daily task is typically met with a smile.

Eat Healthy

It’s no secret that many kids with autism can be picky eaters. Those with children who love to eat only chicken nuggets and crackers know what I’m talking about. How many nutrients can you get from processed foods?

As you work with your child’s ABA practitioner to increase food choices, there are some tips you can implement as a parent. Several cookbooks give you ideas for how to hide vegetables in food. I used Jessica Seinfeld’s Deceptively Delicious. I also started making smoothies packed with spinach, avocado, and other superfoods and fruits. Since my child didn’t notice what I put into the smoothie, he drank it down eagerly. Smoothies will take you far if you can keep the ingredients a secret. If your child doesn’t fall for that trick, you can try to put protein powder or electrolytes in their drinks.

Take Your Vitamins

There are so many different vitamins for kids on the market. It’s overwhelming. But if you know what you’re looking for, you can narrow down what works best for your family. For example, do you want a multivitamin or something specifically targeting the immune system? Do your research and find what works for your family.

My main goal with vitamins is to find something very palatable but with limited sugar. That’s not an easy combo, and I compromised on the sugar component, but it still is packed with the good vitamins my son needs.

Remember that if you can get a multivitamin or supplement that you believe will benefit your child, you can feel good about giving them a little something extra to help keep them healthy. Some people swear by elderberry. Others really love essential oils. There is no surefire way to stay healthy. Just do your research and use what works within your budget that you can maintain.

Get Plenty of Rest

Sleep is a crucial factor to staying healthy. It can also be a tough topic for many parents and caregivers of children with autism. If you and your child struggle to get enough sleep, consider contacting your ABA provider to develop a customized program. Here are some general guidelines that have helped us tremendously throughout the years:

Activity. Keeping your child stimulated and engaged throughout the day helps with sleep. Boredom and a lack of challenges in life make it hard for them to fall asleep. If their brain and body have been working all day, they are more likely to fall asleep and stay asleep.
Bedtime Routine. Having a soothing bedtime routine consistent each night, whether a school night or not, is super helpful for kids with autism. Our routine is bathing, brushing teeth, reading a book, snuggling, and lights out. These must happen in the same order but don’t take long. They are just part of my son’s nightly wind-down routine.
Basic Needs. Making sure your child’s basic needs are met before bed seems obvious, but it’s good to remember to go through potential needs they may or may not be able to communicate to you. It’s vital that your child isn’t hungry (or too full), they don’t have to go to the bathroom, and they aren’t worried about something for the next day that needs to be taken care of now, i.e., planning what to wear, organizing toys, checking the door to make sure it’s locked, etc.
Sleep Aids. Using a weighted blanket or sleep supplements can also help with getting enough rest. With some trial and error, you can uncover some good home remedies to help your child fall asleep and stay asleep.

Stay Home When You Are Sick

Your child needs to stay home when they’re sick. Why am I saying this? Everyone knows that you shouldn’t share your germs. And that’s true for the communities that we live in. We need to be kind and respectful so that others don’t get sick, but it’s also vital for us and our kids.

Even if your child doesn’t have a fever, vomiting, or diarrhea, it may be tempting to still send them to daycare, therapy, or school. But consider the consequences to their own health. Their little, growing bodies require rest when they feel run down. Take the time to let them be at home in their space. They may not opt to rest and take things slow like we want them to. Our highly active kids don’t always know what’s best for them, but you do as a parent and caregiver. Review the suggestions above and give them a little TLC to meet their needs.

BrightPath Behavior is Cheering You On this Fall!

You’ve got this! Your child may only sometimes want to cooperate with their self-care and hygiene, but you can lay the groundwork while they’re young. With a lot of love, patience, repetition, and ABA therapy, you will see success! You won’t be able to achieve every single form of illness prevention you want to keep your home healthy this fall. You might get sick. In the midst of it all, don’t forget to take care of yourself so you can help care for those you love.

What are your biggest questions or concerns about keeping your child healthy during cold and flu season?

We’d love to hear from you in the comments below. If you found this post helpful, please feel free to like, share, and follow us for more insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

If a positive, play-based approach to ABA appeals to you, we invite you to contact BrightPath Behavior. The friendly team at BrightPath Behavior is always ready to answer your questions.

Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Navigating the Screen Time Tightrope: Balancing Tech for Kids with Autism

June 28, 2024/in Autism, Parenting/by Brightpath Behavior

Parent Perspective: The Pros and Cons of Screen Time for Children with Autism

There is no escaping technology. The children we’re raising today live in a world vastly different from our childhoods. Gone are the days of endless outdoor play and hours of choreographing talent shows to mixed tapes (or, for those younger, burning CDs). The only interaction many of us had with video games as kids was playing the Oregon Trail on the classroom desktop computer. While we lament what our children may miss, there are undeniable benefits to living in a more technologically advanced society.

The debate over whether screen time has adverse effects on children with autism is ongoing. I do not have the clinical data to take a stand either way. However, as a parent of a child with autism, I have firsthand experience navigating screen time. I’ve noticed both the pros and cons of screen usage. Here, I share some insights into managing screen time and offer suggestions for determining your approach.

It’s beneficial to carefully consider how you integrate screens into your home—whether it’s an iPad, cell phone, laptop, TV, Kindle, video games, or even a smartwatch. Planning allows you to establish boundaries and anticipate challenges, guiding you toward a balanced approach that works best for your family.

Pros of Screentime

There are numerous benefits for neurodivergent children using various devices and technology, especially those created specifically for kids with autism, speech delays, or other developmental challenges. Here are some ways screen time may be beneficial for your child:

Technology can be a talking tool – Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)

Technology can provide a means of communication and self-expression for non-speaking children with autism. Many AAC programs are available on devices like iPads and enable non-verbal children to communicate effectively, opening new avenues of expression that might not otherwise be accessible. Some popular AAC tools include:

While there’s concern that AAC might deter verbal communication in speaking children, studies show the opposite. AAC may be a valuable option for communicating when children are fatigued. Some individuals find it easier to express themselves more fully through AAC, complementing their verbal expression. Technologies developed by major software and hardware speech manufacturers (not all AAC is installed on an iPad) serve as tools to enhance communication, which is a significant advantage.

Technology can be a learning tool — Educational Apps and Games

Technology is a powerful educational tool, offering thousands of apps and games tailored to various learning needs and interests. Whether your child has an aptitude for a specific subject or needs to develop in a particular area, chances are there’s an app to help them. Here are just a few examples of apps for different areas of learning, including reading, literacy, science, coding, and memory games:

Even games like Minecraft allow kids to learn spatial awareness and design 3-dimensional spaces in an animated realm. When choosing apps and games for your child, focus on those that align with their interests and areas where they can grow.

Our educational system has embraced the use of technology in classrooms as an effective learning tool. As parents, we can do the same. It’s a matter of selecting the right websites and apps for your child.

Technology can be a social and saftey tool — Text Messaging and Video Calling.

Not all technology prevents connection and socialization. In fact, some types of technology allow us to interact in ways that we otherwise wouldn’t be able to. Text messaging and video calling allow children, including those using AAC, to socialize with family and friends safely and meaningfully. Contrary to isolating, some technologies facilitate social interaction.

Digital communication methods provide vital social connections, enhancing communication skills and even offering a way to communicate with a parent or caregiver if they are in a potentially unsafe situation. The following resources help parents keep their kids safe in social settings:

Technology can be a creative tool — Photography and Social Supports.

Many autistic children have a visual inclination and enjoy capturing and reflecting on images. Whether taking photos themselves or exploring pictures on a caregiver’s phone, photography can help them understand their world and relationships.

Additionally, photography and video can support applied behavior analysis (ABA) therapy by creating visual supports and social stories, aiding in learning and vocabulary development. Here are some app ideas for fostering creativity and visual supports:

Technology can be a tool for entertainment.

We can’t ignore the upsides of using technology for entertainment. Many of us tend to view using technology for entertainment as a downside to screens. However, there are moments when we need our kids to sit still and be entertained. There isn’t a mom out there who hasn’t expressed a sigh of relief as they hand their child a phone while waiting at the doctor’s office.

While often viewed negatively, technology can provide essential entertainment and relaxation. Whether calming a child following an extended therapy session or allowing them to unwind after a day of school, screen time offers familiar and predictable activities that may help reduce anxiety and promote relaxation for kids. Here are the favorites in our house:

Cons of Screentime

Now, let’s look at the cons. Many of us are probably very familiar with the consequences of technology and screen usage, whether through personal experience or a fear that it’s becoming a big problem we can’t control. Screen time effects are a real concern. Understanding what we’re up against as parents can help us decide our non-negotiables as well as give ourselves some grace when screens introduce challenges we didn’t expect.

Technology can prevent real, authentic social interaction.

While technology can promote social interaction, it can also isolate your child. When a child is given a device to use whenever and however they want, it can become a real danger. Setting limits around the time and exposure your child has to screens may prevent this from becoming an insurmountable problem.

If your child tends to stim on a screen, it prevents them from staying present. Whether they are compulsive swipers who can’t stay engaged with one show or activity, there may need to be certain restrictions. The Guided Access functionality on an iPad helps those kiddos who like to bounce from app to app and video to video. Or, if your child repeatedly watches the same movie, it may be time to expose them to different shows or activities. These are examples of behaviors an ABA clinician may be able to implement into your child’s programming. Don’t hesitate to reach out and ask your ABA provider, such as ABA Connect, for help.

Technology can be overstimulating.

Many kids with autism tend for their sensory systems to become overloaded. If this is your child, watch how they react to high screen usage. Factors contributing to sensory overload include the device’s volume level, screen brightness, and whether it is used in a dark or brightly lit area. Consider what types of videos, songs, and apps get your child hyped up. Directing them toward content that creates a more calm and regulated nervous system response, such as slow, repetitive music and lower-volume videos, may help them stay within their window of tolerance. Here are some possible apps to help calm your child:

Technology can be an alternate reality.

Some kids prefer to live in a virtual world rather than a real one. Games that include virtual reality (VR) simulate real-life experiences, which may be more exciting or enticing to your child than their actual environment. However, spending time outdoors in nature offers an antidote of sorts. Mother Nature operates at a much slower pace than we do. During a hike or bike ride, your child may begin to experience a healthy contrast to the fast-paced realm of technology. Engaging with nature may enable their nervous system to mimic this slower pace.

Also, consider how videos with compelling storylines may become replacements for reading a book. There is something unique and beneficial in forming pictures to a story within your child’s imagination. When technology prevents kids from spending time outdoors or reading, they miss out on engaging with their environment meaningfully. This may be a sign that it’s time to step back from technology.

Moderation with Screentime

Like many things, there’s no hard and fast rule for approaching screen time with your child. Perhaps the best approach is moderation.

Set limits.
Encourage the types of technology that lead to connection.
Stay engaged in what your child is watching or using.
Try not to feel guilty if your child uses technology more than you would like.

Sometimes, in life, things aren’t quite where we want them to be. Knowing where we want to be can help us get there with a plan and a good dose of patience.

Our Journey with Screen Time

My son didn’t show much interest in screens, whether a TV, phone, or iPad until he was four or five. I actually wanted him to engage with technology because I knew an AAC device could be a helpful tool for him to communicate.

Working with a speech-language pathologist and an assistive technology expert, we presented him with different AAC programs. He wasn’t interested. Also, he had not yet developed a pointer finger, which is essential to a touchscreen device. I recruited an occupational therapist to help him form one. It didn’t matter what she did; he showed no signs of being able to isolate his finger. Until he discovered YouTube Kids on an iPad! Everything changed from there.

Watching entertaining videos was a gateway to making technology more functional. My son didn’t start showing interest in using his “talker” (what we call is AAC device) until he first experienced immediate gratification from swiping around on YouTube Kids and PBS Kids. In that respect, I am incredibly thankful for handheld devices. Yes, they can become detrimental to real-life engagement, but overall, they opened up my son’s world in a whole new way.

Every child’s journey is unique. Maybe there’s something different—another way your child can grow and expand through technology. Remember, technology can be very engaging and motivating. If you need ideas for how to use a device or application to help your child grow, ask your child’s BCBA or ABA clinician. They may have ideas for how to use screens for their greater good.

What are your biggest questions or concerns about screen time usage with your child?

We’d love to hear from you in the comments below. If you found this post helpful, please feel free to like, share, and follow us for more insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

If a positive, play-based approach to ABA appeals to you, we invite you to reach out to ABA Connect. The friendly team at ABA Connect is always ready to help answer your questions.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of ABA Connect, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at ABA Connect.

How to Know if Your Child With Autism Is Ready for Summer Camp

March 28, 2024/in Parenting/by Brightpath Behavior

A Parent’s Perspective: 10 Things to Help Prepare Your Child for Camp

Now is the time of year when parents begin chatting about how they will keep their kids entertained this summer. It’ll be here before you know it, even though the ground has just begun to thaw. Popular camps fill up fast, so you must plan ahead.

Those of us with differently abled children understand that so much more preparation is required for our kids to have positive summer experiences. Many children with autism — and their parents — struggle without the routine of the school calendar year. Camps can be an excellent option for providing structure.

Whether considering a day camp or overnight camp, here are a few things to consider as you plan for the not-so-far-away summer.

Decide on the Kind of Camp

With so many camp options available, your first step will be to figure out what’s offered that would best fit your child. Researching different camps allows you to select the best fit based on your child’s interests, needs, personality type, and abilities.

For younger children, consider community day camps at places like the YMCA, vacation Bible schools, or simple neighborhood playdates.

If your child is older and yearning for more independence and adventure, they may be ready for an overnight camp experience.

Whatever you choose, remember it will be new and different for your child. Change can be hard, so ensure the program provides a clear daily schedule — including activities, breaks, snacks, meals, and transitions. Anytime the routine differs from the usual, it can be difficult for kids with autism.

Day Camps

The daily summer camp options are endless! Start by assessing your child’s unique interests — Legos? Dog agility training? Swimming? Is there a niche camp that your child would love? Finding a program that captures their attention and passion increases the chances of a positive experience.

Overnight Camps

Being away from home overnight, sometimes for multiple nights, can be tough — especially for routine-loving kids. If your child is interested in an overnight camp, research thoroughly. Here is a list of some camps for kids with unique needs you may want to explore. Some are better equipped to accommodate special needs and medical interventions.

Therapy Camps or Intensives

Many therapy clinics and ABA providers offer summer programs focusing on developing specific skills through a themed, fun environment — like a handwriting camp incorporating Occupational Therapy (OT) exercises and activities. There are camps specializing in Alternative and Augmentative Communication (AAC) devices, which could be an amazing setting for AAC users to connect with peers.

These therapy camps allow a refreshing change of pace while still intentionally targeting beneficial skills. They can be a great option, providing that “camp fun” experience with continued therapeutic support.

Prepare Your Child for Camp Success

Whether you decide to do a day camp, overnight camp, or a therapy camp, here are ten things to help prepare your child for a successful summer camp experience:

1. Assess Independence Skills:

Evaluate how independent your child is with daily tasks like using the restroom, dressing, and feeding themselves, as camp will require a degree of self-care ability. If your child needs additional assistance, look into adaptive camps that offer one-on-one aides and nursing staff on-site.

You may also practice separating from your child for extended periods of time if your child struggles with separation anxiety. Do practice runs to get them comfortable being away from you.

2. Discuss Expectations and Role-Play Scenarios:

Most children, especially those with autism, thrive when they understand expectations. Whatever program you choose, provide your child with a clear understanding of the daily camp schedule: activities, breaks, snacks, meals, and transitions between activities and living situations if it’s an overnight camp.

Before camp begins, it’s helpful to paint a picture or tell a story of what the experience may be like for your child. If visual schedules or social stories have been useful tools in the past, use them again to illustrate camp life. Role-playing potential situations like asking for help, being flexible when plans change, and resolving conflicts with peers can also be immensely valuable preparation. Building this foundational understanding can help ease anxiety.

3: Arrange a Camp Visit:

If possible, tour the camp facilities ahead of time so your child can become familiar with the setting, staff, and routines. Allowing them to see the camp environment firsthand, rather than just discussing it, will help build an understanding of what to expect and how to navigate the experience.

During the visit, explain transitions between activities, point out locations for different events, and walk through daily routines. This visual preparation can ease anxiety about the new experience by removing some unknowns. Clearly understanding expectations — what they can anticipate and what will be expected — will help ensure a successful camp transition.

4. Develop Social Skills:

A major part of being in a peer group like school, camp, or even playing around the neighborhood is understanding social cues and socially appropriate behavior. Camp environments heavily involve group activities and peer interaction.

Teaching your child essential social skills can lead to a much more positive camp experience. Practice things like meeting new people, making eye contact and smiling when greeting others, taking turns during games, and joining group activities (even if not their most preferred). Strong social skills will enable your child to engage with peers and staff meaningfully and constructively.

5. Establish a Communication System:

Decide how your child will communicate their needs at camp — verbally, using visual supports, an AAC device, etc. Ensure camp staff fully understand your child’s communication methods and provide access to any of those tools or devices they require.

It’s also essential to establish how you will effectively communicate with staff should any questions or issues arise during the camp experience. Consider providing some upfront education, not just on Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), but also on your specific child’s preferences, needs, and potential behavior triggers. Staff should know exactly how to respond if challenges occur, including when and how to immediately contact you if necessary.

This open line of communication helps prevent misunderstandings and allows staff to support your child throughout their time at camp properly. Clarity is vital for a smooth, successful experience.

6. Identify Sensory Needs:

Predicting sensory triggers is sometimes hard, but you can equip your child with strategies. Whether overstimulation stems from noise, crowds, bright lights, or other sources, your child is likely learning coping techniques through ABA. Using headphones, sunglasses, or taking breaks away from stimuli are all positive ways to self-regulate.

Provide comprehensive information to camp staff about your child’s sensory preferences, potential meltdown triggers, and effective calming strategies. Sharing this level of detail ensures camp staff can properly support your child’s needs and provide any necessary accommodations or preventative actions while they’re in a new environment.

7. Request Accommodations Early:

If your child requires any accommodations, request them well in advance. Early requests may include dietary restrictions, modified activities, designated quiet spaces to reduce overstimulation, or other adjustments. Ensure camp staff receive proper training in autism awareness and how to implement effective support strategies tailored to your child’s needs.

If your child has medical issues, make arrangements to coordinate with the camp’s on-site nurse or healthcare staff. Discuss protocols for medication administration, managing procedures, and sharing any other essential medical information to ensure your child’s health and safety throughout their stay.

Advocating early allows time to make accommodations and educate staff appropriately. With open communication and planning, the camp can create an environment set up for your child’s success.

8. Pack Familiar Items:

Let your child bring beloved items from home — special toys, favorite books, soothing music, or calming fidget tools. These familiar objects can provide tremendous comfort and help them self-regulate in the new camp environment. Don’t underestimate the relaxing power of a treasured stuffed animal or the focusing effects of a preferred fidget spinner. Packing a few cherished items in their camp bag can go a long way in easing anxiety over being away from home. At the same time, it gives your child access to calming favorites that facilitate positive behaviors and engagement at camp.

9. Develop a Behavior Plan:

If your child experiences challenging behaviors from time to time, have a comprehensive behavior plan ready for camp staff to implement. Work with your child’s BCBA to create a plan that outlines positive reinforcement strategies and guidelines for appropriately addressing specific behaviors.

Providing this plan in advance allows staff to be fully prepared. They’ll understand how to encourage desired behaviors through positive reinforcement and safely manage escalated situations. Though it requires some initial coordination, having a detailed, vetted plan ensures staff can respond confidently and consistently — supporting your child’s success instead of feeling unprepared if difficulties arise.

This proactive preparation may be critical for a positive overall experience. With a thoughtful plan, staff can create an environment designed to bring out your child’s best.

10. Teach Safety Skills:

Safety awareness and following directions are major focuses in most ABA programs. At camp, children may encounter activities outside their typical routines, such as ropes courses, water sports like kayaking, or heightened needs to stay with the group during transitions.

It’s important to reinforce skills for recognizing potential dangers while still promoting your child’s independence. Practice identifying unsafe situations and reviewing rules for activities that may pose new risks. This preparation empowers your child to make safe choices while enjoying camp with increased autonomy.

Camp staff should also be well-versed in your child’s safety protocol. Provide any necessary training so they understand your child’s specific needs and can responsibly supervise while facilitating new experiences. Open communication allows staff to strike the right balance between risk prevention and independence.

Plan An Incredible Camp Experience in Advance with an ABA Provider You Trust

The key to a successful summer camp experience is thorough assessment of your child’s needs, open communication with camp staff, equipping your child with necessary skills and tools, and developing plans for providing ongoing flexibility and support.

If you’re considering camp this summer and have concerns, consult with your child’s BCBA or ABA provider. A provider like ABA Connect can develop specific programming and goals tailored to prepare your child in advance. An appropriate behavior plan with positive reinforcement strategies is also invaluable — even if challenging behaviors never arise, having a plan in place ensures staff can respond confidently.

As parents, we must always be prepared to adapt to our child’s individual needs. Being ready includes making necessary adjustments to camp selections and activity choices as their skills progress. With comprehensive preparation, open communication with staff, and strengthening your child’s skillset, you can ensure they have an incredible camp experience while meeting their unique needs.

With intentional planning and an ideal camp program, you and your child will be ready for an enriching, growth-filled summer!

What are your biggest questions or concerns about finding the right summer camp fit?

We’d love to hear from you in the comments below. If you found this post helpful, please feel free to like, share, and follow us for more insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

If a positive, play-based approach to ABA appeals to you, we invite you to reach out to ABA Connect. The friendly team at ABA Connect is always ready to help answer your questions.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of ABA Connect, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at ABA Connect.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

Creating a Positive Haircut Experience for Kids with Autism

February 27, 2024/in Autism, Behavior Management, Parenting/by Brightpath Behavior

A Parent’s Perspective: Tips for Sensory-Friendly Haircuts

I used to cut my son’s hair. I knew if I took him somewhere for a haircut, he would freak out from the overwhelming sensory experience. But if I cut it, I could set the stage for success — cut it dry (no spritzing him with water), give him toys to stim with, and provide access to an iPad for entertainment. It worked for years until I realized my skills were sorely lacking. And I want my son to look his very best.

So we decided to venture out for a haircut in the wild.

Many kids with autism have a hard time getting a haircut. It is a highly stimulating experience. The noise of clippers near their ears, the vibrations on their skin, and the discomfort caused by falling hair can lead to overwhelming sensations, potentially triggering meltdowns.

Since taking my son elsewhere to have a haircut, I’ve learned some proactive steps that may help prepare your child and accommodate their sensory needs. If you aren’t the type of parent who’s up for a DIY challenge, and even if you are, here are some tips on making the haircut experience positive for your child.

As it turns out, all of the ways I was helping my son through the experience at home can be done at a salon or barber shop, too.

Plan for your child’s haircut.

First, decide where you will get your child’s haircut. Some salons specialize in kids’ cuts and even care for children with special needs. But if they don’t, most barbers and stylists are still willing to make accommodations. Remember, if the stylist or barber has experience cutting hair, your child will probably not be the most wiggly, uncooperative person whose hair they’ve ever cut. (I hope this makes you feel better going in.)

Call ahead.

You may want to call ahead to ask the stylist some questions and see what experience they have working with kids with autism. Ask if they are willing to accommodate a child with special needs. Many stylists are eager to make adjustments even if they don’t specialize in it.

Schedule a pre-appointment visit.

You may be able to schedule a time to come into the salon before the appointment; that way, the environment isn’t foreign to your child when they arrive for their haircut. A pre-visit lets your child get comfortable with the setting, people, and process. They’ll better know what to expect.

Book an appointment.

Book your child’s appointment during a slow time so the shop has less activity, noise, and overall stimulation. Also, plan for a time of day when your child is well-rested and well-fed. The timing of the haircut may seem like a small thing, but it has the potential to make a big difference.

Note: You may want to schedule extra time on the day of the appointment. Arrive early so your child can transition and make their way into the chair on their own terms.

Decide on the style.

Think ahead about what type of haircut is best for your child. For example, if they don’t like their ears touched, think of a style where the hair comes down over the ears so the clippers don’t need to come too close. If you want to avoid repeating the experience frequently, ask for a shorter haircut so it takes longer to grow out. Your child may want to be involved in selecting their haircut, and if they can, that’s great! Have them look at pictures so they decide and have some ownership over the experience.

Questions to ask the stylist.

Are you comfortable with lots of movement, taking breaks, and even willing to sit in a different chair on the ground?
Can I schedule an appointment during a slow time?
May I bring my child into the salon before the actual haircut to get them used to the environment?
Will you make accommodations as necessary, such as cutting dry hair or using scissors instead of clippers due to the sound and vibrations?

Key things to tell the stylist.

You may want to give the stylist an information sheet on autism so they can understand some of the fundamental challenges of autistic kids. Autism Speaks has a Haircutting Guide you can download.

If you don’t want to print something out, that’s understandable. It can feel kinda awkward. Instead, explain some things about your child so to help the process go smoothly:

My child doesn’t like loud noises, so it’s best to speak in a calm, low voice.
My child is easily scared, so it’s best not to come up from behind.
My child takes a little longer to process questions, so keep your directions simple and give them a minute to respond.

Prepare your child for the haircut.

As you plan for your child’s haircut, there are many sensory elements to remember — from the overhead lighting to the itchy feel of cut hair touching their skin. There are many things you can discuss with your child in advance of the visit.

Prepare your child in the way that’s best for them to know what to expect. Whether that is simply talking through the process, creating a visual schedule, watching a social story, or role-playing at home.

Talk through the unexpected parts: For example, scissors go swish, swish, clippers make a buzzing sound, spray bottle will get me a little bit wet when the hair is cut, it will fall and may make me feel itchy, but we can brush it off so that it doesn’t keep itching.
Create a visual schedule: Icons for a visual schedule include a barber shop, salon chair, cape, spray bottle, clippers, scissors, blow dryer, and a picture of the hair cut short.
Social story: Watch a video created for kids with autism on how someone gets their haircut. This is a great social story.
Role Play: Set up a pretend salon in your home and talk through every step of the process.

Distractions and comfort creatures for during the haircut.

Ensuring a positive haircut experience for your child with autism involves thoughtful preparation. Here are some ideas for distractions and comforting tools that may be used during the process:

Bring a tablet or iPad for them to watch as a distraction.
Bring a favorite toy or fidget to stim with if that will help get their attention off the haircut.
Bring a weighted blanket or other compression tool to help calm your child.
Bring earplugs if your child is sensitive to sound and will tolerate wearing them.
Offer a reward for completing the task; give them something to work for, bubbles, a favorite snack, or candy.

Process and praise your child after the experience.

Praise them for things that went well, no matter how your child did during the haircut. Even if it wasn’t successful in your mind, praise them for trying. This allows you to pave the way for them to successfully experience a haircut so that they can feel good about how their hair looks and feels. Reward them after the experience with something especially reinforcing for them so they have a positive association with the experience.

For fun!

Take before and after pictures so your child can see the difference the haircut made and be reminded of it the next time they need to go in for a trim.

For your child’s next haircut.

Consider making haircuts routine events. Don’t wait too long between haircuts so your child can expect the experience as part of their overall grooming care.

Remember, every child is unique; what works best for one may not work for yours. It’s important to stay flexible and patient and to keep your child’s comfort at the forefront. Through trial and feedback, you will find the approach that best suits your child.

With some preparation — and a patient, understanding stylist — you can make getting a haircut a positive experience for your child with autism. The key is finding a good fit and setting your child up for success.

Which haircut tip resonated with you? What will you plan to implement for your child’s next haircut?

If you found this post helpful, please like, share, and follow for more content on autism or ABA therapy.

If you are interested in a positive, play-based approach to ABA, contact ABA Connect. The team at ABA Connect is happy to help answer your questions.

Please note that while I am a consultant writing on behalf of ABA Connect, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. I aim to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences as well as interviews conducted with the staff at ABA Connect.