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Autism-Friendly Holiday Events in Austin, Texas

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How To Enjoy the Holidays When Your Child With Autism Doesn’t

There’s nothing I dread more than a holiday party with my son, who has autism. The music, lights, food, and loud conversations are enough to put both of us into sensory overload. Him because of the stimulation. Me because of his reactions to them. He doesn’t appreciate the overall sentiment of the season; putting all those triggers into one crowded space rarely leads to joy. 

There’s a lot of pressure on parents to make Christmas magical. When you have a neurodivergent family member, celebrations may simply need to look different. Creating new traditions that work well for your whole family can make the season a lot more merry and bright—in a good way. Here are some planning tips that might help. 

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Look for Autism-Friendly Holiday Events in Austin, Texas

Many organizations in Central Texas are becoming more sensitive to the needs of individuals with autism, offering events with adjusted lighting, lower sound levels, and flexible expectations. Look for terms like “sensory-friendly” or “accessibility” on websites. Your child’s ABA therapist might also have recommendations for fun things to do this time of year. 

  • Caring Santa—Some malls host a “Caring Santa” experience that offers a Santa photo without the loud music and long lines. You can visit SantaCares.WhereIsSanta.com to schedule a Caring Santa meeting at Barton Creek Square Mall in Austin, Texas.  
  • Adapted Performances—Ballet companies and theaters may offer performances where kids don’t have to sit still or stay silent. Some even adjust lighting and sound. The Nutcracker performance in Austin, Texas offers sensory friendly viewing opportunities through various charitable organizations. 
  • Sensory Friendly Films—Select theaters play movies with lights up and sound down, also offering opportunities for children with autism and other special needs to watch a film on the big screen. Christmas would be a great time to go to one of these special screenings.
    • Nearby AMC Locations offer Sensory Friendly Viewings on the Second and Fourth Saturdays of the Month:
      • AMC Lakeline 9: Cedar Park, TX
      • AMC Barton Creek Square 14: Austin, TX
      • AMC DINE-IN Tech Ridge 10: Austin, TX
  • Holiday Parties Hosted by Local Organizations—Depending on your city, nonprofits or school districts may offer unique party experiences for kids with autism, with reduced crowds and stimulation. Visit the recreation page on the Autism Society of Texas website for more information on celebrations in Austin. 

If you can’t find an adapted option in your area, you may be courageous enough to try something small and manageable. If that’s you, go for it! Bring a sensory kit of your child’s favorite calming items and plan an exit strategy in case things go awry. Oh, and be prepared to graciously explain some of your child’s challenges to someone you meet in public.

Create Autism-Friendly Holiday Traditions at Home

If leaving home for a public holiday celebration feels like too much, I get it. I’ve been there. Sometimes, the effort required is far more than the joy you get in return. Instead, create custom traditions that match your child’s interests and your family’s capacity. 

  • Host a Simple Holiday Gathering—Invite a few close friends or family members over to your home instead of venturing out. It doesn’t have to be big and elaborate. Make it a relaxed get-together. Keep food familiar and expectations flexible. 
  • Adjust Decorations—If your child loves Christmas lights and decorations, go for it and break out all the tinsel and plastic ornaments you can find. If decorations feel overwhelming, keep things calm and minimal. 
  • Do Christmas Cookies and Crafts… Without the Expectations—If your kid wants to eat all of the frosting and sprinkles instead of decorating cookies, that’s still a memory. Let the activity unfold however works best. Or, try creating a Holiday Sensory Box for your child.
  • Drive-Thru Christmas Lights—Being able to drive through a light show or neighborhood, allowing your child to watch from inside the car, is an excellent alternative to walking through a Winter Wonderland set up by the city Parks and Rec department. 
  • Adapt Gift-Giving—Some kids adore opening presents; others don’t care. Adjust as needed. At our home, we use gift bags because my son loves pulling out tissue paper. And if the gift is a new version of an old toy? Even better. 

As you shift traditions, you may need to explain the changes to close family members. It might not be as apparent to them, but if you can share why your child needs accommodations, they’ll hopefully be more supportive than you expect. 

Ways You Can Stay Grounded as a Parent Caregiver

Over the years, I’ve learned that how regulated I am influences my child’s regulation. When I’m tense, he feels it. When I’m calm and present, he often relaxes too. So creating a holiday we both enjoy means tending to myself as well. 

  • Find Ways Not to Cook—One year, my family decided to go to a Thanksgiving brunch and skip the cooking. I felt guilty at first, but seeing everyone enjoy something different from the buffet made me realize it was perfect. And no dishes either. 
  • Make a Calming Christmas Playlist—Choose favorite songs that ground you. Quiet carols, acoustic covers, anything soothing. It sets the tone for the whole house. 
  • Shop Without Your Kids—If possible, shop during therapy or school hours. Avoiding crowds and kids in tow protects everyone’s peace. 

Whatever meaningful ways you find to celebrate, remember: you are doing your best. Your child’s BCBA can help you weave foundational skills into holiday moments, from practicing waiting in line to giving gifts. Even imperfect memories become stepping stones for the connection and growth of your child and your whole family. 

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Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer specializing in pediatric healthcare and special education brands based in Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics, as well as parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

 

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

 

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

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Managing Sensory Overload During Fall Activities

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Supporting Your Child with Autism Through an Enjoyable and Sensory-Friendly Season

As the leaves change color and pumpkin-scented everything fills the air, fall brings a world of exciting opportunities for family bonding. From pumpkin patches to Halloween festivities, the season is rich with sensory experiences. 

However, for children with autism, these activities can sometimes lead to sensory overload—a state where the brain is overwhelmed by too much sensory input, causing discomfort, distress, or challenging behaviors. 

The good news is that there are many ways to prepare and help so your child can enjoy pumpkin patches, hayrides, Halloween parties, and more.

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Understanding Sensory Overload

Children with autism often experience the world differently. They may be hypersensitive (very sensitive) or hyposensitive (less sensitive) to sights, sounds, touches, tastes, or smells. For example, a costume’s scratchy fabric or a sudden loud doorbell can feel painful or frightening, while bright strobe lights or unexpected noises at a Halloween party can lead to anxiety or a meltdown. 

Even fun activities like carving pumpkins or attending a block party can be stressful if they don’t know what to expect. It helps to remember that sensory overload is a physiological response. Your child’s brain is simply trying to process a lot of new information at once. By preparing ahead, we can ease that burden.

Families should know they’re not alone. Research indicates that most children on the autism spectrum exhibit sensory processing differences. In practice, this means what feels exciting to one child (e.g., flashy lights or loud music) can feel overwhelming to another. Recognizing these challenges is the first step to a great Halloween: we can adjust the environment and build skills so the day is fun and not frightening.

Know Your Child’s Sensory Profile

Every child is different. Some may seek out sensory input (like jumping in leaves), while others may avoid it (like being startled by loud Halloween decorations). Use what you know about your child’s preferences to plan accordingly. A Functional Behavior Assessment (FBA) approach can help you identify what triggers your child and what they find soothing.

Tip: Make a list of what your child enjoys vs. what they avoid (e.g., loud noises, strong smells, crowded places) and use it to guide your activity choices.

Use Visual Supports and Social Stories

Preparing your child for upcoming activities can reduce anxiety and increase predictability. Visual schedules and social stories are antecedent interventions that can help children understand what to expect in their daily lives. Children with autism are often visual learners, so using pictures and schedules can help make sense of an event. 

For example, you might create a visual schedule or a “first-then” board before a fall outing, such as pictures showing “First we will look for pumpkins, then we’ll have a snack” or a simple picture of the pumpkin patch with a checkmark. Such charts remind the child what to expect and in what order.

Tip: Before visiting a pumpkin patch, use a simple social story with pictures to explain what they will see, hear, and do.

Teach Coping Skills and Safe Breaks

Help your child learn how to ask for a break or use calming strategies when overwhelmed. Teaching them self-advocacy skills helps promote self-regulation and reduces the likelihood of meltdowns.

Tip: Use ABA techniques, such as functional communication training (FCT), to teach your child to request breaks using words, signs, or pictures (e.g., “I need quiet,” “All done”).

Practice Activities in Low-Stress Settings

If your child struggles with transitions or unpredictable environments, try practicing the activity in a quiet setting first.

Tip: Visit the pumpkin patch on a weekday morning when it’s less crowded, or create a mini “fall fest” in your backyard with sensory-friendly activities.

Reinforce Positive Participation

Use positive reinforcement to encourage participation and reduce challenging behaviors. Catch your child being successful—even in small steps.

Tip: Say, “Great job using your words when you wanted a break!” and offer a preferred reward, such as extra time on a favorite activity or a small treat.

Modify Activities to Reduce Sensory Overload

Don’t feel pressured to do fall “the traditional way.” Modify experiences so your child can participate at their comfort level.

Ideas:

  • Use noise-canceling headphones during parades or festivals.
  • Bring familiar comfort items, like a favorite toy or blanket.
  • Dress in a costume that is comfortable for Halloween.
  • Celebrate holidays at home with close family before trying large gatherings.

Final Thoughts

Fall should be fun, not overwhelming. By using ABA strategies to plan ahead, modify the environment, and teach coping skills, you can create a safe, inclusive, and enjoyable season for your child. Remember: success doesn’t mean doing everything. It means doing what works best for your family.

Happy Fall from BrightPath Behavior!

 

Litzy Vivas graduated from Texas State University in 2022 with her Bachelor of Science in Health Sciences. She is pursuing a Master of Science in Applied Behavior Analysis at Purdue University, working toward becoming a BCBA. Beginning her ABA journey in 2023 in San Antonio, she was later given the opportunity to support her community through BrightPath Behavior in 2024. She chose the field of ABA because she’s passionate about helping children reach their full potential. Litzy believes each child’s progress reflects the dedication and hard work of both the child and the family. She loves being a part of that support system and witnessing the life-changing impact of ABA therapy. A fun fact about her is that she has two cats, Frankie and Ivy.

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Spring Break Sensory Activities for Your Child with Autism

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Spring Break is around the corner. If you don’t have plans get away, you may want to do some fun sensory activities at home with your child. Here are some ideas to keep sensory kids engaged and learning. 

Sight-Based Sensory Activities & Touch-Based Sensory Activities 

Outdoor activities that emphasize visual experiences, like scavenger hunts, can be a blast, especially for children with autism focused on sensory engagement. They offer chances to enhance both receptive and expressive language skills. Also, scavenger hunts promote exploration and can be tailored to various communication abilities. You can create spring-themed sensory bins filled with vibrant items such as pebbles, plants, plastic bugs, and pastel sprinkles for indoor visual sensory play. These bins are not only entertaining but also help in developing senses, motor skills, and social interactions. They can be particularly beneficial for kids who struggle with sensory regulation and can help lessen sensitivities to certain textures. 

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Chalk Art.

Another idea is to use sidewalk chalk, which gives kids with autism a fun way to express themselves and work on their fine motor skills. It’s a great mix of creativity, sensory play, and physical growth, letting them draw some shapes and colors.

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Smell-Based Sensory Activities

Kids with autism can benefit from activities focusing on smell, as they offer a chance to explore their senses and get their olfactory system working. Getting into different scents around them can be a great way to engage their sense of smell. You can encourage them to sniff various aromas in places like nature, at home, or while out and about. For example, taking a stroll through a garden or park lets them enjoy the smells of flowers, trees, and grass. You could also try using scented candles or essential oils with different fragrances at home or even take a trip to a bakery to enjoy those delicious baking smells.

Taste-Based Sensory Activities 

You can set up a guessing game for taste-focused activities where kids taste various items, such as fresh fruits, chocolates, pretzels, leafy greens, carrots, raisins, or mint. Chatting about the different smells and flavors helps kids learn to identify tastes like salty, sweet, bitter, and sour, which boosts their language skills and executive function. 

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Sound-Based Sensory Activities 

Spring is a great time to dive into sound-based sensory activities. These fun activities can boost fine motor skills, hand-eye coordination, and language development, making them both enjoyable and beneficial. One easy and entertaining sound-based sensory project is making Easter egg shakers. All you need are plastic Easter eggs or small containers and some filling materials like rice, beans, lentils, rocks, pebbles, marbles, sand, Legos, or beads, and the kids can help you create these. Then encourage them to listen to the different sounds each shaker makes. You can also use phrases like “above your head,” “behind your back,” and “under your legs” to help them learn about prepositions.

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References

Dr. S. Vishnu Priya. (2020). Olfactory Activities for Kids with Autism – AutiSpark. https://www.autispark.com/olfactory-activities-for-kids-with-autism/ 

Adam Goodrich. (2020). 5 Fun Springtime Sensory Activities to Engage All Your Senses! 

https://www.coraphysicaltherapy.com/five-fun-springtime-sensory-activities-to-en gage-all-your-senses/

 

Stephanie Alvarez, RBT, is in the BCBA Apprentice Program at BrightPath Behavior and works at the clinic in Katy, TX. Upon her initial introduction to the field of applied behavior analysis (ABA), she confessed she had little understanding of the subject. However, with the guidance of an exceptional mentor, Stephanie quickly became acquainted with the principles of ABA. This experience ignited a passion in her, mainly because she recognized the profound impact that being an ABA therapist can have on clients.

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Holiday Gift Ideas for Kids with Autism

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Parent Perspective: What to Buy Your Child this Year

This Christmas, I’ll buy my son yet another replica of his favorite toy—just like I do every year. He is obsessed with what we call “ball within a ball.” To him, it makes the most magnificent sound when he shakes it over and over again. For the rest of us, it’s a sound we’ve grown accustomed to—part of the background noise of our home. Although I’ll admit, it can get a little grating during road trips. Still, it’s the perfect gift for him, year after year, bringing pure joy every time he opens it. 

As much as my son will experience delight opening (probably his fifteenth) “ball within a ball” this year, I wish I could find other gifts he’d genuinely enjoy. Gift shopping for kids with autism can be challenging. It often takes time for them to warm up to a new toy; some toys are rejected altogether.

In this blog, I’ve rounded up ideas for sensory-friendly toys and developmentally engaging games that might bring joy to your child this holiday season. While they may not replace their favorite stim toy, these gifts could help with sensory challenges and encourage meaningful play. 

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Gifts for sensory seekers.

Pod Swing:

If you have a sensory seeker in your home, you may want to try one of these swings. Our favorite is the pod swing. It provides more input around your child’s upper body compared to a platform swing but not so much compression that it becomes difficult to get in and out of. Another bonus is its versatility–you can use it both indoors and outdoors, depending on the season and your child’s preferences. We absolutely love this swing!

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OUTREE Kids Pod Swing Seat Cotton Child Hammock Chair for Indoor and Outdoor use. 

 

Harkla Hug:

For kids constantly leaning against you or pressing their bodies into pillows and blankets around the house, the Harkla Hug is an excellent alternative. My son went through a phase where we would climb right inside it after school and start shaking his beloved “ball within a ball.” It gave him a way to decompress, much like how I unwind by scrolling through my phone. It’s a truly great gift!

Harkla Hug Sensory Chair 48″ – Inflatable Sensory Pod for Kids- Sensory Toys for Children- Therapeutic Compression Toys | Kids 2 to 6 | Pea Pod and Air Pump

Stocking stuffers for the constant fidgeter.

If you have a child whose hands are in constant motion, these toys are worth checking out! Silly Putty is a classic that never goes out of style. Wiki Sticks are a fun, newer option—bendable wax sticks that can be shaped into endless designs. Both offer limitless possibilities for creativity and provide the perfect outlet for fidgety hands, helping your child stay engaged and focused. 

Silly Putty:

Crayola Original Silly Putty Packaging May Vary (Pack of 6)

 

Wiki Sticks:

Wikki Stix for Doodlers – Kid’s Travel Essential: Portable Creativity On-The-Go! Pack of 24 Wikki Stix in Neon and Primary Colors. Made in USA ! 3 & Up.

The gift of sleep all night long. 

If your child needs their bedroom to be just so right before bed, this could be the perfect present. The Tranquil Turtle combines a nightlight, sound machine, and sensory toy all in one. For kids who rely on a sound machine or nightlight to wind down, this adds extra comfort and fun to their bedtime routine. We don’t have one in our house, but it’s definitely on my list!

Tranquil Turtle

Fun gifts for helping manage big emotions. 

If you have a child with big feelings, a stress ball or pinch putty can provide a helpful outlet for expressing their emotions. I especially love these fruit-shaped stress balls because they serve their purpose and teach kids about different foods. Unlike most stress balls, these are specifically designed for young children. 

Mindful maze toys are another fantastic option—they offer a calming distraction and help fuel a sense of regulation as your child traces the patterns with their finger. All of these make excellent stocking stuffers!

Stress Ball:

Schylling NeeDoh Groovy Fruit – Sensory Fidget Toy – Multiple Shapes – Ages 3 to Adult (Pack of 1)

Pinch Putty:

Pinch Me Therapy Dough – Holistic Aromatherapy Stress Relieving Putty – 10 Ounce Spa Scent

Mindful Maze Boards:

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Mindful Maze Boards, Learn Breathing Patterns, Mindfulness for Kids Anxiety Relief, Tactile Sensory Toys, Play Therapy Toys, Social Emotional Learning Activities, Calm Down Corner Supplies

Presents for the stuffed animal lover. 

If your child can’t go anywhere without a stuffie, why not introduce them to a plush version of Julia from Sesame Street? Julia is a character with autism, making her a familiar and fun companion and an excellent opportunity to start conversations with your child about their own autism and the similarities they may share with Julia. 

Julia Doll from Sesame Street:

Just Play Sesame Street Big Hugs 18-inch Large Plush Julia Doll, Soft Fabric, Pretend Play, Kids Toys for Ages 18 Month

Repeat gifts for the creature of habit.

If you’re still unsure about what to get your child this holiday season, consider reaching out to your child’s ABA therapists or teachers. They might have noticed something your child has gravitated toward that will give you a new idea—a therapy toy or a tool they’re thinking about introducing in future therapy sessions. Over the years, my son’s therapist have given us some fantastic ideas we would’ve never thought of on our own. 

As you shop for you child this year, my biggest piece of advice is: don’t overthink it. Go ahead and buy the same gift you’ve been giving year after year. Even if the novelty has worn off for you, chances are your child will be as thrilled as ever. Seeing their face light up with joy as they open yet another version of their favorite toy makes it all worthwhile. 

What are your gift ideas?

We love to hear from you! Share your thoughts and questions in the comments below. Your input helps us continue providing insightful content on autism and ABA therapy.

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Connect with BrightPath Behavior today. Our friendly team is here to answer your questions and support your journey.

 

Kathy McClelland is a freelance copywriter and marketer for pediatric healthcare and special education brands from Austin, Texas. Before becoming a mom, her work included promoting medical journals and online publications for the American Academy of Pediatrics and parenting books for Tyndale House Publishers. When her second son was born with a rare genetic condition, she was thrust into the world of special needs parenting. Her website is kathymcopywriting.com.

Disclaimer: While I am a consultant writing on behalf of BrightPath Behavior, my child is not a current client. The views and experiences shared in this blog post are entirely from a parent’s perspective. My goal is to provide informative content and insights based on my personal experiences, as well as interviews conducted with the staff at BrightPath Behavior.

Note: The information provided in this article is for general guidance and does not replace professional advice. Please consult with a healthcare professional or therapist for personalized guidance.

Creating a Sensory Box for Your Child with Autism: A Holiday Season Activity

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The holiday season is often a whirlwind of activities, from cooking festive feasts to wrapping presents and decorating the house. Amidst the hustle and bustle, finding activities that keep your child engaged and happy can be a challenge, especially for parents of children with autism. 

Crafting a sensory box is one way to provide a soothing and stimulating experience for your child.

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What is a Sensory Box?

A sensory box is a container filled with various materials to stimulate the senses – touch, sight, sound, smell, and sometimes taste. It serves as a safe space for children with autism to explore and engage their senses in a controlled environment.

How to Create a Sensory Box:

  1. Choose the Right Container: Select a container that suits your child’s preferences. It can be a plastic bin, a shoebox, or any container with a lid that can be easily opened and closed.
  2. Fill it with Sensory Materials: Here are some suggestions for sensory materials to include:
    • Textures: Consider items with different textures like smooth stones, soft fabrics, squishy toys, or scratchy items like carpet or Velcro.
    • Visual Stimulation: Add items that are visually appealing, such as glitter, kaleidoscopes, colorful scarves, or shiny objects.
    • Auditory Stimuli: Incorporate items that produce various sounds like bells, chimes, musical toys, or a small rainstick.
    • Scents: Introduce scented items like lavender sachets, citrus peels, scented markers, or essential oil-infused cotton balls (ensure safety and avoid strong scents).
    • Taste (if suitable): If your child enjoys exploring tastes, you can include safe snacks like flavored rice crackers, dried fruits, or chewy snacks (consider any dietary restrictions or allergies).

       3. Personalize It: Tailor the sensory box according to your child’s preferences. You know your child best, so include items that align with their interests and sensory needs.

Benefits of a Sensory Box:

  • Calming Effect: A sensory box can provide a calming effect, helping to reduce anxiety and stress.
  • Sensory Exploration: Encourages exploration and stimulates the senses in a controlled and safe environment.
  • Independent Play: It promotes independent play, giving parents valuable time to attend to holiday tasks.

You know your child best, so customize this to their interests, preferences, and abilities. Also, if your child engages in pica, mouthing, or other potentially dangerous activities, make sure you provide appropriate supervision.

Incorporating a sensory box into your child’s routine during the holiday season can be a rewarding experience. It offers a moment of respite for parents and an engaging and enjoyable activity for children with autism.

Remember, every child is unique, so observe and adjust the sensory box contents based on what brings comfort and joy to your child.

Happy holidays filled with sensory exploration!

Reference:

Refer to “The Out-of-Sync Child” by Carol Kranowitz for additional inspiration and ideas. This book offers valuable insights into sensory processing issues and practical suggestions for creating sensory-rich environments for children.

For more blog articles from ABA Connect on surviving the holidays check out: How to Cope with Holiday Stress, Make a Plan to Avoid Santa Trauma, and Holiday Planning that Makes Room for Autism.

Experiences Impact Happiness More Than Material Gifts

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As we approach the holiday season, I’ve been thinking about my upcoming visits with family and how to make the best of every moment together. My family is, sadly, spread out all across the country, so our visits are few and far between. Looking back at visits from previous years, I notice that I hardly remember the details. I remember very few specific gifts (except the year my parents got me a backyard playhouse and built furniture to put inside it!) or the holiday decorations. I do have vivid memories of cooking a holiday meal with my Grandmother and laughing until I cried during a family board game. I think it is that way for almost everyone.

Again, research backs up intuition – experiences impact our happiness and wellbeing more than tangible gifts. A few factors are at play here. Although we might think that having a shiny new Keurig will measurably improve our morning routine, we’re actually wired to adapt to our environments in their current state, and that pretty appliance will quickly become an invisible item that blends into the kitchen landscape. This phenomenon, called the hedonic treadmill, means that although getting a new gift during the holidays will lead to a short-term increase in joy, that joy quickly fades away and we focus on acquiring the next item on our list. Experiences (such as vacations, concerts, classes, great conversations, shared feasts, etc.) have a much more long-term impact on our memory banks because we spend an extended amount of time anticipating them. We also tend to reflect positively on the memories, even when things didn’t go perfectly.  We learn to construct funny stories for later from the disasters that happen when we gather!

Interestingly, experiences also have a more positive impact on our happiness compared to material purchases even before they have happened! In a cleverly titled article, “Waiting for Merlot,” researchers at Cornell University found that people reported significantly more positive feelings and excitement when thinking about going on a trip or out to a new restaurant than when thinking about getting a new laptop or pair of shoes. It seems that it’s easier for us to savor the positive anticipation of an event rather than an object, and that happy anticipation extends our joy. That might be one reason why it’s easier to remember times spent with family during the holidays – we look forward to them with pleasure in the months leading up to the gatherings. Another factor that gives experiences the edge is that they lead to more relatedness with one another. This has been particularly true for me – the times that stand out in my memory were times that I shared something exciting or meaningful with a family member and our bond grew stronger.

Taken together, if you really want to make the most of your holidays, focus on shared experiences (which, conveniently, often don’t cost a thing!). Of course, it is possible for the act of giving a meaningful gift to become an experience in and of itself. But, in general, time spent with one another will make you happier than breaking the bank to try to please people someone with “the perfect something.” Give your time and yourself, instead.

Survive the Holidays

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Written by: Ashley Flanders

The holiday season is a time to welcome a break from our day-to-day lives, to get together with families, enjoy gift exchanges, decorate with bright lights, break out those annoying Christmas songs, and partake in rich food…all ways of celebrating that we have come to eagerly await. However, for individuals with autism, especially children, this comes with new expectations and a disruption in routines. The holiday traditions we hold dear may be a source of stress, frustration, or sensory overload for individuals with autism. Provided below is a list of general tips that may help your child feel more comfortable and get through the holidays unscathed (which the holidays are also known for!)

Care to Prepare

Knowing what to look forward for the season and/or on a certain day can help avoid stressors for you and your child, and how much preparation you engage in will depend on your child’s needs. Keep in mind what events have been a source of anxiety for them in the past and what could have helped in that situation. You could find or create a social story to read with your child that discusses what is going to happen during the holidays and what behavior is expected from all parties. You can also review a calendar with them a few days or weeks ahead of time, so they have a physical countdown of when these events are going to happen. Make it exciting and really emphasize the fun parts!

Practice for Success

Whatever your traditions are, roleplaying or using social scripts ahead of time may help the holidays run smoother. Whether opening presents, meeting Santa, or performing religious rituals, practicing can avoid catching your child unprepared and help them have a good time!

Getting to Know You

If you plan on visiting family or friends that your child has not spent a lot of time with, you may want to start easing your child into meeting them ahead of time. You can create a picture book with notes about each person to give to your child. On the other side, speaking to visitors about your child’s potential triggers, what they enjoy, and how they communicate can help visitors get to know your child better. For all parties, it may be helpful to discuss consent before touching others, to let your child know it’s okay to say “no” if they feel uncomfortable with new people and avoid embarrassing visitors if your child does not want to engage with them at first.

Plan B

Have a back-up plan for when you go out on the town, visit loved one’s homes, or are traveling. Carry a bag full of their favorite toys/activities or soothing items. Make sure you bring food that your child will eat. Before heading out, locate a safe area you and your child can go to take a break. Let people that are with you aware that you may take these breaks, and ensure them that  it is so everyone can have a positive experience.

Baby Steps

Ease your child into the season by taking gradual steps for events that may be overwhelming to them. For instance, when you begin decorating (and also taking down decorations) put only a few up every day until you build up to a perfectly merry home!

Sensory Relief

If your child has a history of being hypersensitive to certain stimuli, prepare for this as well by avoiding areas/events that may be agitating to them—for instance, holiday light shows or caroling. You can also use your “baby steps” to get them used to these experiences for the season or bring along appropriate sensory adaptive aids such as noise-reducing earphones or sunglasses.

Communication

This is for you and your kiddo! Encourage your child to communicate their needs through the holiday. Don’t feel afraid to voice to others what kind of supports and your child may require to get through the holidays.

Be safe, have fun, and happy holidays from ABA Connect!

The History of Giving Birthday Presents to Kids

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Most parents in western countries celebrate their children’s birthdays by giving birthday gifts, however, birthdays weren’t always celebrated in this way. In this blog post, we take a look at the tradition of giving gifts to celebrate birthdays, how it started, and how it differs in other nations.

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Who Started the Tradition of Giving Gifts?

The act of giving gifts goes as far back as the time of cavemen, perhaps even right to the origin of our species. Of course, gifts at this time weren’t the kind of goods we’d like to receive nowadays! Cave people typically gave items from nature, such as animal teeth, perhaps with a hole in to be worn as a necklace.

Over the years, the types of gifts given has changed. Coins and herds of livestock were given as gifts in later years. Nowadays, gifts can be just about anything. For adults, it’s common to receive a household gift such as a candle, flowers or a favorite food item. Teenagers can be difficult to buy for.  Gifts can range from anything from gadgets and tech to make up or clothes. Great present for boys and girls on their birthday can be anything that suits them. Most commonly given gifts for children are toys and games, although clothes, chocolate and candies and things for their room.

Other Historical Birthday Traditions

In ancient Greek times, gifts were given to those celebrating their birthday as a way to get rid of evil spirits. They also used noisemakers to help scare away the bad spirits.  Perhaps this is where the use of party poppers to celebrate birthdays came from. In Roman times, gifts were only given to men on their birthday. Women started celebrating their birthday sometime around the 12th century.

Adding candles to a birthday cake is something else we can thank the ancient Greeks for – they started this tradition as a way to honor their gods and goddesses, however, birthday cake as we know it today was developed by Germans towards the end of the 18th century. This was the same time when ‘Kinderfeste’ first started taking place – the 18th century equivalent of a child’s birthday party.

Which Countries don’t Celebrate Birthdays?

Not all cultures celebrate their birthdays the same way. Some people, because of religious beliefs do not celebrate birthdays. Some cultures do celebrate, but with different traditions. In Russia for example, you might be given a personalized pie instead of a cake. Some cultures don’t recognize official birthdays, with many people worldwide not knowing which date or even which year they were born in.

The Future of Birthday Celebrations

Birthday customs and traditions are always changing and adapting, with many popular American customs spreading to other countries. For example, many British parents now choose to do a ‘cake smash’ with their child for their first birthday, a trend which was virtually unheard of just a couple of years ago. One thing’s for sure – birthday celebrations are set to get bigger and better as time goes on.

Sticking to Your New Year’s Goals

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The New Year is upon us and along with it linger our New Year’s resolutions. Have you already considered discarding your goals this year due to lack of progress? Maybe you haven’t even set any yet because they haven’t worked in the past. It is not too late to set a few solid New Year’s resolutions for this year. Sticking to your goals simply requires some fine-tuning.

Most people set goals for the New Year that are health-related, either seeking to improve their physical well-being by improving their eating habits or increasing their exercise habits. Others may be in search of improving their emotional health. By addressing unresolved emotional concerns or improving their preventative mental health practices. If you want to be firm in your resolve, then have a look at your goals and determine whether or not they are possible.

Refining New Year’s resolutions is not a new topic. Dr. Meredith Brinster previously posted a blog about exercising self-compassion. Dr. Mike Brooks has also posted many related blogs including a couple with specific tips for weight loss hacks, and overcoming inertia using the 5-minute rule.

Setting S.M.A.R.T. Goals

One acronym that helps you decide whether or not your goals are actionable goals is S.M.A.R.T. It stands for the following:

  • Specific – The more detailed you describe your goal, the better. Consider exactly what you want to achieve and then work out the details (e.g., what, when, how, and why).
  • Measurable – Identify exactly how you know when you have reached your goal. What you will see, hear, and feel.
  • Achievable – Is your goal reasonably calculated given your current obligations and life circumstances? Consider what you need in order to reach the goal. If the goal is impossible to attain, then you need to reevaluate and choose something else.
  • Relevant – How motivated are you to achieve the goal? Ask yourself if the goal is worthwhile and whether or not it is the right goal for you.
  • Time-Bound – it Is important to set a realistic timeframe for accomplishing your goal. Setting up smaller goals will help you determine if you are on-track for meeting your ultimate goal.

Accountability

Once you have devised your SMART goal, the last step is holding yourself accountable. Share your goal with someone else. If others know about your goal, then you will have someone else checking in to see whether or not you have made progress. Your accountability partners will be able to offer you encouragement and you will be more motivated to not disappoint them.

The Takeaway

Now you know how to develop goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-Bound. Take some time to write down your new goals and develop your plan for checking on your progress. If you follow these steps, then you will have more success this year sticking to your goals and will experience a sense of accomplishment.

Enjoying the Holidays with a Child on the Spectrum: Visiting Santa

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Visiting Santa, even with a child on the spectrum, is possible.

Parents want their children to experience the “magic” of the holiday seasons and partake in as many activities as they choose. This can be challenging with a child on the spectrum who may want to partake in holiday activities, but have behaviors that may preclude them from doing so.

Parents who want their child to visit Santa Claus may worry about their child feeling anxious in large crowds, having a hard time waiting in line, and sitting still in Santa’s lap (without crying!). This is overwhelming enough to make caregivers give up before even trying. By using a few principles of behavior and planning ahead, your child could master the skills needed to have a great experience visiting Santa.

Managing Crowds

If your child is overwhelmed by large groups of people, contact Santa’s place of work and ask when there are typically less people. Smaller crowds are more common when Santa events first open; if you can arrive a bit before the event opens, you will likely encounter shorter lines.

Most children have toys or treats that help them cope when they are overwhelmed. Bring these items with you to the event. Watch your child; they will likely demonstrate “warning signals” that let you know when they’re growing uncomfortable. When you see these warning signals, give them their toys or treats. Do no wait until they are having a tantrum to try and calm them, this may inadvertently teach them “When I have a tantrum, I get cool stuff.” Not the message you want to send!

Contact Santa’s Helpers

Many Santa events often have a contact number. You can call to let the event workers know that you’re coming and you have a child with special needs. Tell them if your child would be more comfortable with certain changes, such as a speedier Santa visit, standing next to Santa instead of sitting on his lap, or giving Santa a list of desired presents instead of telling him verbally. People are happy to accommodate when they can, so don’t hesitate to ask for help.

Practice at Home

If you want your child to take a picture with Santa, but are worried they will not tolerate sitting with him, practice taking pictures with different family members and family friends before you go to the event. Have your child go through the motions of sitting on someone’s lap and smiling at a camera. Try and practice this as much as you can 3 to 4 days prior to seeing Santa. The more comfortable your child is in front of the camera, the more likely they will be to say “Cheese!” on the big day!

Children with ASD can be a part of holiday fun and festivities. With a little planning and practice, caregivers can help their children with special needs to partake in the fun!

By: Caroline Roesel, MEd, BCBA